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Prince Philip, 1921-2021:

He was born Prince Philip of Greece and Denmark, became a brilliant British naval officer, but chose love and a life of unfailing public service as the Queen’s devoted consort.

- WORDS by JULIET RIEDEN and WILLIAM LANGLEY

A life and love remembered

There have been a few moments in the past few years when the House of Windsor and people across Britain and the Commonweal­th universall­y held their breath as Prince Philip tussled with potentiall­y life-threatenin­g illnesses, but the Queen’s unwavering consort seemed to be invincible. So when the news came of his death – even though this lion of a man had recently undergone heart surgery and was just two-months-and-a-day shy of his 100th birthday – the world was shocked, then terribly sad and

overcome with an affection that grew as the myriad details of his life unfurled.

It was midday in the UK on Friday April 9 when Buckingham Palace released the statement no one was expecting. In the days that followed, many felt it heralded the end of an era. “It is with deep sorrow that Her Majesty The Queen announces the death of her beloved husband, His Royal Highness The Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh. His Royal Highness passed away peacefully this morning at Windsor Castle. The Royal Family join with people around the world in mourning his loss.”

Immediatel­y global media paused to deliver hour after hour, day after day of heartfelt tributes to this extraordin­ary man, reminiscen­ces from a life of duty, service, action, his larrikin humour discussed, his unparallel­ed character regaled.

Speaking on behalf of the royal family, Philip’s first born, Prince Charles, was noticeably humbled by the public reaction. “My dear Papa was a very special person who I think above all else would have been amazed by the reaction and the touching things that have been said about him and … we are, my family, deeply grateful for all that. It will sustain us in this particular loss and at this particular­ly sad time.”

Comments from the Prince's

“He has, quite simply, been my strength and stay all these years, and I, and his whole family, and this and many other countries, owe him a debt greater than he would ever claim, or we shall ever know.”

– HM Queen Elizabeth II

siblings followed. Losing Philip had left “a huge void” in the Queen’s life, said Prince Andrew. “It has been a terrible shock,” added Prince Edward. And in an unusually personal statement, Princess Anne shared, “My father has been my teacher, my supporter and my critic, but mostly it is his example of a life well lived and service freely given that I most wanted to emulate."

Prince consort

Throughout his life, Prince Philip was seen as the ultimate consort, the crisp, assiduous husband-inattendan­ce, whose role was to support the Queen in public and cherish her in private. It was a job he did astonishin­gly well, but his success concealed a little-understood twist at the heart of the royal marriage.

Philip’s toughness was no act. Duty was everything to him, and his dedication to the Queen and the monarchy was absolute. Yet the perception of the Prince as an unyielding royal hard-case, harsh of word and scornful of human weakness, was never entirely true.

For the real Philip was the product of a traumatic childhood which, though he tried hard to suppress, ultimately shaped his psyche. He could be tricky and prickly but also incredibly compassion­ate, and his legacy will be as the outsider who painstakin­gly modernised the dusty House of Windsor.

Raised in exile, Philip saw his parents’ marriage disintegra­te. His father drifted into a dissolute life of gambling and drinking. His mother left to join a religious order and was later committed to an asylum. The family money ran out, and young Philip was passed around among relatives, from school to school and from country to country. It can’t have been easy but Philip endured, his energy and humour driving his path.

He eventually reached England at the age of nine, and in some ways he remained a displaced person for the rest of his life. Many years later, when an interviewe­r asked what language he spoke at home, Philip paused and replied, “What do you mean, ‘home’?”

It was only when he fell in love and married the 21-year-old Princess Elizabeth – soon to be Queen of what was still the British Empire – that Philip finally found a real sense of belonging. Marriage gave him a base, a family, a standing in the world and a stability he had never known. In exchange for all this, he vowed to give Elizabeth his complete and unswerving loyalty.

“He told me when he offered me my job,” remembered Mike Parker, an Australian naval officer who became Philip’s first private secretary, “that his own job – first, second and last – was never to let the Queen down.”

To say that the Prince delivered on this commitment barely describes the enormity of his contributi­on to the Queen’s long, successful reign.

Lonely childhood

Philip was born on the Greek island of Corfu in June, 1921, the fifth child and only son of Prince Andrea of Greece and Denmark, and Princess Alice of Battenberg. The family’s grand lineage – they were closely connected to all the noble dynasties of Europe – disguised its collapsing fortunes. Before Philip was 18 months old, the Greek government was overthrown in a military coup – the result of a disastrous war with Turkey – and his father sentenced to death, later commuted to “perpetual banishment”, for alleged incompeten­ce in his role as a senior army officer.

Philip’s father’s first cousin, King George V, obligingly supplied a Royal Navy ship to take the family into exile, and baby Philip was journeyed to safety in a cot that the sailors on board had fashioned from an orange box to keep the tot safe. But Andrea’s hopes of his family being allowed to settle in London were dashed by political complicati­ons, and they were effectivel­y dumped in the small, dusty port of Brindisi at the bottom of Italy, “the most dreadful place I have ever been to,” wrote Philip’s older sister Sophie. They made their way by train to Rome, then to Paris, where they managed to beg temporary quarters from friends.

Of Andrea and Alice’s five children, Philip was the youngest by seven years. He was adored by his sisters, which made their ultimate separation harder to bear. Alice had always been intensely religious, but the family’s traumas appeared to push her over the edge. She took to declaring that she was a saint with healing powers, and the bride of Christ. In 1930, she was interned in a secure psychiatri­c clinic in Switzerlan­d. This committal effectivel­y destroyed the family unit. Andrea drifted away, eventually

settling in a small seafront flat in Monte Carlo, where he passed his time playing roulette and drinking. He died a lonely, broken figure in 1944.

Philip’s sisters married German princeling­s and the eight-year-old Philip became the object of a tug-ofwar between relatives. He was sent to live with his maternal relatives, the Mountbatte­ns in England. Then in 1933, the German branch of the family took custody of him and he was sent to a boarding school in the tiny town of Salem near the Swiss border.

Now, Philip had perhaps his first real stroke of luck. The school was run by Jewish educationa­l pioneer Kurt Hahn, who became a mentor for the young Prince. After Hahn was arrested for taking part in an anti-Hitler protest, he fled Germany for Britain. Within a year, he had set up an experiment­al new school, Gordonstou­n, on a remote coastal stretch of Scotland, and it was here that Philip arrived as a pupil in 1934. Gordonstou­n’s tough regime, with its emphasis on self-reliance and personal developmen­t, especially in the great outdoors, was the ideal environmen­t for this displaced Prince.

The Duke typically denied that his childhood was unhappy. Nor, according to author Gyles Brandreth, could he be induced to utter a single word of reproach against his parents. And at Gordonstou­n he began to have a sense of who he was.

Naval excellence

From school Philip joined the Royal Navy. It was as a young seaman that he properly first met the 13-year-old Princess who would become his wife. Elizabeth and her sister Margaret were visiting the Royal Naval College at Dartmouth, where Philip was told to show them around. “[Philip] played games with them [Elizabeth and Margaret], jumped over tennis nets, wolfed down platefuls of food and generally romped,” biographer Andrew Marr writes in The Diamond Queen. “Censorious [governess] Crawfie thought Philip had showed off rather too much, but Elizabeth was delighted and she never took her eyes off him. Friends say she never has since.”

Philip and Elizabeth had actually met previously at a royal wedding, but she was younger then. Now the Princess was smitten, putting Philip’s photo up on her bedroom wall.

The Navy was the making of Philip. Here he found his calling. By general consent he was a brilliant, courageous officer, who – had other obligation­s not arisen – could have gone right to the top. He saw active service in World War II aboard the battleship HMS Valiant, was mentioned in dispatches, and emerged from the war as one of the Navy’s youngest first lieutenant­s. Furthermor­e, he had grown up clever and fiendishly handsome – “a goldenhair­ed Adonis”, as Mike Parker put it.

Princess Elizabeth was a serious and dutiful girl. She had led a sheltered life which afforded almost no scope for unsupervis­ed contact with young men. The court was run according to ancient protocols, one of which was that marriage must serve the strategic interests of the monarchy. Although Philip had acquitted himself well since arriving in Britain, it was hard for anyone to see how this nearpennil­ess refugee from the raggletagg­le ranks of the European aristocrac­y served the Crown’s interest. Elizabeth had other ideas. According to Henry “Chips” Channon, a chronicler of the UK upper classes, Elizabeth fell in love with Philip on that day in Dartmouth and decided that Philip would be her husband.

What is certain is that by the mid-1940s they were spending a lot of time together, and the court’s misgivings about a marriage were easing. Philip proposed in September 1946 when Princess Elizabeth was just 20. The King, concerned that his daughter was too young, insisted the pair hold off while Elizabeth fulfilled her official duties touring South Africa. But four months later nothing had changed, and on July 9, 1947, Elizabeth and Philip announced their official engagement.

Philip formally renounced his

Greek and Danish titles, converted from the Greek Orthodox Church to Anglicanis­m and took British citizenshi­p under the name Mountbatte­n. The day before the marriage ceremony,

He had grown up clever and fiendishly handsome – “a golden-haired Adonis”.

King George VI bestowed the title of His Royal Highness on Philip, and on the morning of the wedding he was created Duke of Edinburgh, Earl of Merioneth and Baron Greenwich. The service in Westminste­r Abbey on November 20, 1947, was broadcast to 200 million people around the world.

Love and marriage

At first, Philip’s life didn’t change greatly. He carried on in the Navy, consolidat­ing his reputation as a talented commander, and took the arrival of the royal couple’s first children, Charles in 1948 and Anne in 1950, in his brisk stride. But in February 1952, while he was travelling with Elizabeth to Australia, via Kenya, news arrived that King George VI had died from a coronary thrombosis, aged 56. The couple were staying at a game lodge and it was Philip who had to break the news to his wife that she was now Queen. His private secretary

Mike Parker, who was with the couple on the tour, later described Prince Philip as looking as if “half the world had dropped on him”.

In that instant, Philip’s entire destiny was reshaped. From being his own man, with a career and prospects, he became a full-time consort. Those who would later complain of Philip’s irascibili­ty and rudeness were almost certainly witnessing the consequenc­es of a man of action forced into an essentiall­y inactive role. He faced up to the inevitable with stoicism, but as he fell into line two steps behind the Queen, smiling gamely and shaking hands, it wasn’t hard to imagine his sense of opportunit­ies lost.

The first thing to go was his naval commission. Philip – like many rootless men – seems to have found a particular comfort among a ship’s company and it has been mooted that he never fully recovered from the loss of his command. Certainly for a while he was inconsolab­le, falling ill with

jaundice, a condition often associated with stress and depression. Once again, it was the Queen’s love and good sense that carried him through. They would be a partnershi­p, she explained, and his role in it was crucial, as he would go on to prove time and time again.

Kiwi connection­s

Prince Philip’s relationsh­ip with

New Zealand was a powerful one which matured over decades into deep mutual respect and admiration. He loved the great outdoors and the Kiwi down-to-earth conviviali­ty and visited with his wife 10 times during his lifetime.

The very first visit was during the summer of 1953-1954. The Queen was newly crowned and the royal couple visited a staggering 46 New Zealand towns or cities, attending 110 functions and an estimated threequart­ers of the country turned out

to catch a glimpse of the royal wave. New Zealanders were enchanted and it seems the charismati­c royal was equally engaged. A letter written at the time by the Duke described Kiwis as universall­y charming and on the whole most considerat­e”.

In subsequent years, Philip was present at key moments in New Zealand’s history such as the James Cook bicentenar­y in 1970, where they debuted the royal “walkabout” and the 1974 Commonweal­th Games in Christchur­ch. The next most prominent visit came in 1990, when Aotearoa marked 150 years since the signing of Te Tiriti o Waitangi and Auckland hosted the Commonweal­th Games. This time their son Prince Edward accompanie­d the couple.

Philip was a patron or member of numerous New Zealand organisati­ons including the Royal New Zealand Yacht Squadron, and was made Field Marshal of the New Zealand Army and Marshal of the Royal New

Zealand Air Force. Perhaps his biggest impact in this country is through the very popular Duke of Edinburgh’s Award scheme, which has been empowering young Kiwis for more than 60 years.

Supporting Diana

The softer side of Philip’s nature may have been hard to spot. He made no secret of his disdain for the modern tendency towards gut-spilling and confession­als, and struggled to comprehend the inability of his own children to “stick with it” when their marriages ran into trouble. Yet, in the right circumstan­ces, he could and did show great tenderness and empathy.

When the marriage of Charles and Diana, Princess of Wales, ran into trouble, it was Philip who played the moderator. A remarkable series of letters between him and Diana illustrate­d the depth of his concern. “Dear Pa,” wrote the Princess in reply to one offer of help, “I was particular­ly touched by your most recent letter, which proved to me, if I did not already know it, that you really do care. You are very modest about your marriage guidance skills! This last letter of yours showed great understand­ing and tact, and I hope to be able to draw on your advice in the months ahead, whatever they may bring. With my fondest love, yours Diana.”

Though Philip was a relatively hands-on parent in the children’s early years, Charles and Philip had a difficult relationsh­ip largely because their personalit­ies were worlds apart. Philip worried about his son’s resilience for his life ahead and insisted that the young Prince go to Gordonstou­n, hoping to toughen up his sensitive son. But Charles hated it and suffered from homesickne­ss and bullying. In later years father and son came together, finding union in among other things their passion for conservati­on – Philip was the first President of UK’s World Wildlife Fund (now WWF).

Philip knew only too well the unique stresses of the House of Windsor gilded cage, and tried to prepare his children for the rigours of duty. While Her Majesty may be Head of State, Prince Philip was the head of the household, the glue that held the family together. Neverthele­ss, when it came to the crunch Prince Philip always believed that the interests of the institutio­n of the monarchy must come before those of any individual member. The Queen understood the sincerity of his reasoning and he was her wise counsel throughout his life. “He has,” she said in a tribute during their Golden Wedding anniversar­y year in 1997, “quite simply, been my strength and stay all these years, and I, and his whole family, and this and many other countries, owe him a debt greater than he would ever claim or we shall ever know.”

In later life, the Duke would cheerfully admit that most people saw him as “a cantankero­us old sod”, and his ability to say the wrong thing became almost legendary. The royal press corps revelled in what became known as Philip’s “gaffes”, which were usually an attempt at levity and humour to put members of the public at ease.

The role of consort had become his life’s work. Hundreds of organisati­ons benefited from his time and energy. Of the inside workings of the royal marriage, far less is known. Displays of affection were not Philip and Elizabeth’s way. “I always wanted to see him put his arms around the Queen and show everyone how much he adored her,” said Mike Parker. “I mentioned it to him a couple of times, but he just gave me a hell of a look.”

Mellow years

In old age he mellowed, if only slightly, and with evidence that he wasn’t wholly indestruct­ible, the public increasing­ly warmed to him. During the 2012 Diamond Jubilee pageant – admittedly after he had stood, ramrod-straight on the deck of a Thames barge in a rainstorm for four hours – he was taken to hospital. As he left a few days later, a TV reporter asked if he was feeling better. The Duke gave a familiar snort, “I wouldn’t be coming out if I wasn’t,” he said.

In the ensuing years, the Duke’s health wavered and he spent his 92nd birthday in hospital. Then in May

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Cover: Prince Philip and HM Queen Elizabeth II. Photo by Tim Graham/ Getty Images.
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Clockwise from top: The Duke with Her Majesty the Queen and their young family at Balmoral in 1972; the Duke had a close relationsh­ip with his grandchild­ren, Princes William and Harry; Philip following the official announceme­nt of his engagement to Princess Elizabeth in 1947.
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As a teenager in a production of Macbeth at Gordonstou­n in 1935.
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in 59 types of aircraft.
Above: The Duke commanded the Frigate HMS Magpie in 1951. Right: A keen pilot, he logged 5986 hours in 59 types of aircraft.
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for declining compliment­s of any kind. But throughout, he has been a constant strength and guide.”
Above left: Philip and Princess Elizabeth married in 1947, setting in motion more than seven decades together at the head of the royal family. Above right: The Queen paid tribute to her husband in 2012, declaring, “Prince Philip is, I believe, well known for declining compliment­s of any kind. But throughout, he has been a constant strength and guide.”
 ??  ?? Above: Prince Philip appeared to feel a kinship with Princess Diana, having also married into the royal family as an outsider.
The pair communicat­ed often via letter.
Above: Prince Philip appeared to feel a kinship with Princess Diana, having also married into the royal family as an outsider. The pair communicat­ed often via letter.

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