Flip your mindset
Take Darren’s example and when you fail, get ready to try again, says Rachel Grunwell
When you fail at dreams or goals, pick yourself up and forge ahead. This is resilience. It’s crucial to our wellbeing.
Butcher Darren de Groot, 47, is the epitome of this term.
Darren and I first connected through social media. He follows my InspiredHealthNZ Facebook page, a health and fitness hub for Kiwis.
Darren then introduced himself to me in person in Queenstown last year. He told me he had just failed to finish the 2017 Queenstown Marathon.
“I pulled out of the event at the 32km mark after heat and dehydration smashed me,” he said.
But then he told me he would return for the same event in 2018. He vowed to finish the marathon next time.
Rather than feeling sorry for himself, he flipped his mindset. He was motivated to return and finish the race.
Over the past year, he has kept in touch with me via InspiredHealthNZ. He shared his run-training triumphs, including shedding an impressive 40kg. I was in awe of his commitment to train around his busy work and family life.
He trains sometimes at 3am so he can fit fitness into his life. As a fellow runner, I dig connecting on social media with other runners, like Darren. Social media often gets slammed as a shallow hangout full of overpolished moments. But, social media can be positive too. It can connect you with likeminds who have similar interests — like Darren.
The day before the 2018 Queenstown Marathon was held recently, I messaged Darren to wish him luck. I also gave him some tips, as I’ve run 22 marathons.
Post-race, the Christchurch dad sent me a happy run pic from the event and quipped, “It wasn’t pretty, but I got it done.”
Darren had “hip and calf issues” around 20km, he told me, but then he remarked: “failing wasn’t an option”. There lots of tears at the finish-line too.
Darren finished that marathon in memory of his dear dad who passed away two years ago, aged 80. Darren wore his dad’s age — 80 — as his race bib number pinned to his chest for motivation.
He credits his marathon success to his supportive wife Jan and their beautiful kids Harrison, 9, and Ryleigh, 2.
I also credit Darren’s success to his unstoppable determination. Mate, you are not only resilient, you are also simply inspiring.
Darren de Groot was determined to finish the Queenstown Marathon after failing to finish last year.