Flip your mind­set

Take Dar­ren’s ex­am­ple and when you fail, get ready to try again, says Rachel Grun­well

Bay of Plenty Times - - December Indulge - — Rachel is a well­ness ex­pert, speaker, coach, writer, and the di­rec­tor of the life­style web­site in­spired­health.co.nz. Face­book: In­spiredHealthNZ In­sta­gram: in­spired­healthand­fit­ness

When you fail at dreams or goals, pick your­self up and forge ahead. This is re­silience. It’s cru­cial to our well­be­ing.

Butcher Dar­ren de Groot, 47, is the epit­ome of this term.

Dar­ren and I first con­nected through so­cial me­dia. He fol­lows my In­spiredHealthNZ Face­book page, a health and fit­ness hub for Ki­wis.

Dar­ren then in­tro­duced him­self to me in per­son in Queen­stown last year. He told me he had just failed to fin­ish the 2017 Queen­stown Marathon.

“I pulled out of the event at the 32km mark af­ter heat and de­hy­dra­tion smashed me,” he said.

But then he told me he would re­turn for the same event in 2018. He vowed to fin­ish the marathon next time.

Rather than feel­ing sorry for him­self, he flipped his mind­set. He was mo­ti­vated to re­turn and fin­ish the race.

Over the past year, he has kept in touch with me via In­spiredHealthNZ. He shared his run-train­ing tri­umphs, in­clud­ing shed­ding an im­pres­sive 40kg. I was in awe of his com­mit­ment to train around his busy work and fam­ily life.

He trains some­times at 3am so he can fit fit­ness into his life. As a fel­low run­ner, I dig con­nect­ing on so­cial me­dia with other run­ners, like Dar­ren. So­cial me­dia of­ten gets slammed as a shal­low hang­out full of over­pol­ished mo­ments. But, so­cial me­dia can be pos­i­tive too. It can con­nect you with like­minds who have sim­i­lar in­ter­ests — like Dar­ren.

The day be­fore the 2018 Queen­stown Marathon was held re­cently, I mes­saged Dar­ren to wish him luck. I also gave him some tips, as I’ve run 22 marathons.

Post-race, the Christchurch dad sent me a happy run pic from the event and quipped, “It wasn’t pretty, but I got it done.”

Dar­ren had “hip and calf is­sues” around 20km, he told me, but then he re­marked: “fail­ing wasn’t an op­tion”. There lots of tears at the fin­ish-line too.

Dar­ren fin­ished that marathon in mem­ory of his dear dad who passed away two years ago, aged 80. Dar­ren wore his dad’s age — 80 — as his race bib num­ber pinned to his chest for mo­ti­va­tion.

He cred­its his marathon suc­cess to his sup­port­ive wife Jan and their beau­ti­ful kids Har­ri­son, 9, and Ryleigh, 2.

I also credit Dar­ren’s suc­cess to his un­stop­pable de­ter­mi­na­tion. Mate, you are not only re­silient, you are also sim­ply in­spir­ing.

Dar­ren de Groot was de­ter­mined to fin­ish the Queen­stown Marathon af­ter fail­ing to fin­ish last year.

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