My teenage daugh­ter has no friends

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daugh­ter’s per­son­al­ity that might cause her to be on the outer.

You say your hus­band was her teacher in the early days. Did he no­tice your daugh­ter having any trou­ble with so­cial cues?

An­other sug­ges­tion is that you be­friend some of the moth­ers? In­vite fam­i­lies over and let your daugh­ter so­cialise in a group sit­u­a­tion. Th­ese sug­ges­tions will only work if your daugh­ter ac­tu­ally wants your help. It may be that your strate­gis­ing and in­ter­fer­ing makes things worse for her.

If that’s the case, you might just have to be em­pa­thetic and lis­ten. Help her find joy in things that are more alone. Once she loses the panic and des­per­a­tion, she’ll be more at­trac­tive to her peer group.

You can guide your daugh­ter in all as­pects of so­cial­i­sa­tion but at the end of the day, she’ll have to fig­ure this out for her­self. We want to fix things for our chil­dren but this may be one thing you can’t fix.

Mary-anne Scott has raised four boys and writ­ten three nov­els for young adults, in­clud­ing Stick­ing With Pigs which was re­leased in March 2018. (One Tree House). As one of seven sis­ters, there aren’t many par­ent­ing prob­lems she hasn’t talked over. To send her a ques­tion email life.style@stuff.co.nz with Dear Mary-anne in the sub­ject line. Your anonymity is as­sured.

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Many chil­dren find their school­days tough and it’s not un­til they leave school that they find their real friends.

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