Herald on Sunday

Baby dream source of heartache

- By Alice Peacock

prospect of fertility struggles than in other developed countries.

However, Righarts said it was important to note the difficulty in comparison­s.

Other studies conducted overseas used different definition­s of infertilit­y.

The current study Righarts is leading would be comparable with a recent study in the United Kingdom.

Infertilit­y is defined when conception is unsuccessf­ul after 12 months Gaby Reid says the most challengin­g part of infertilit­y is that no one talks about their struggles.

“It’s an awkward conversati­on,” she says.

But that doesn’t put people off from asking questions.

Reid says after she had been married to her husband, Jonny Gabriel, for a certain amount of time, people started asking questions around her plans and commenting on the dreaded “timeline”.

“You start getting people saying, ‘tick tock, tick tock’.”

The 35-year-old says this has been challengin­g. She tended to keep her and Gabriel’s battle to herself, so outsiders’ comments have made her feel quite alone in their struggle.

Reid and Gabriel, both Aucklandba­sed high school teachers, began trying for a baby in 2015.

When nothing initially happened they went to see a doctor. They went through the usual tests — for sperm count, and endometrio­sis, but all the results were clear.

The couple wound up in the large and murky bracket of “unexplaine­d infertilit­y” — a label Reid said was as frustratin­g as it was painful.

“Because there’s no reason

of trying or medical help is needed to achieve it.

Along with specific sexual health data, the research also considered general living conditions — income, education and age.

Juanita Copeland, vice president of Fertility New Zealand, indicated New Zealand was “up there” in the world in terms of the number of people requiring treatment for infertilit­y. for it, there’s no public funding for us until we’ve been infertile for five years.”

The funding for government subsidised IVF and fertility treatment was based on a points system. It takes into account age, previous experience­s with infertilit­y and the length of time a couple had spent trying to conceive.

Although March 2020 — the month Reid and Gabriel become eligible for funding — is on the horizon, Reid is a realist about their chances.

She believes there would be around a year-long wait list for those eligible, and she knows IVF

The initial study highlighti­ng infertilit­y rates down south showed the issue “didn’t discrimina­te”, Copeland said.

“It seems to affect every aspect of our community in terms of socioecono­mic situations, levels of education, ethnicity — all of that stuff.”

Copeland hoped the research would increase the level of discussion around infertilit­y, as well as boost funding for treatments such doesn’t have a positive outcome every time.

In the meantime, Reid is considerin­g trying intrauteri­ne inseminati­on — a fertility treatment with a higher success rate than the natural process.

This treatment comes at a cost of about $900.

In an attempt to ensure optimal conditions, Reid has quit smoking and is working on losing weight.

Research linking acupunctur­e and conception prompted her to spend hundreds of dollars on weekly acupunctur­e sessions — but after months the treatment was too costly.

She and Gabriel are taking the journey one step at a time, she says.

“It changes week from week. Like this week I’m like, ‘Okay it’s all good.’

“But then other weeks it will be really horrible, and you don’t want to see pregnant women and you don’t want to talk about children.”

Reid said it was good to hear there was research going on in this space.

“It might give some answers; it might highlight why people are struggling or why there is such a high infertilit­y rate in NZ.

“It’s so hard when you don’t know, when there isn’t a reason for it.” as IVF in the future.

This would raise some important questions around why so many Kiwis struggled to conceive, she said.

“People are leaving family building until much later than is biological­ly ideal.”

Fertility New Zealand was working in conjunctio­n with Righarts’ team and would release some data establishe­d through the study in Fertility Week next month.

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Gaby Reid and Jonny Gabriel.

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