My brother’s addicted to devices at 13
addicted: angry when screens are taken away; sneaking back on; grabbing at anyone’s devices; letting his schoolwork slip; uninterested in any other activities; focused solely on getting back to his gaming.
The worry of this, plus the stress of your dad and grandparents getting angry at him must be making your life pretty tough at the moment.
Your dad, and especially your grandparents, will be bewildered by this situation. Having access to online gaming every day, all day, wasn’t an option for a 13-year-old even 10 years ago.
They probably think he can stop and that he’s just being naughty.
You’re actually going to need some outside help – some expert help – to help your brother. Even though it’s your brother who is addicted, it will be a family, or whole house, solution.
There are a lot of devices in the place you live and as you explained, your brother is seizing whatever he can.
I think you need to talk to your father and grandparents. Show them your letter and ask them to start taking steps to resolve this.
It sounds as if they’ll need help from a psychologist or counsellor and the best place to start getting the help is to go to your family GP or your brother’s school counsellor.
Maybe the school is already aware that your brother has a problem. You need to talk to someone who will listen and take you seriously.
In the meantime, as a family you could start to monitor your own screen times. Do you have phones at the table? Sometimes, grandparents and parents can be the worst offenders for devices.
Make a list of all the phones, iPads and computers in your house and account for them every night. Could one person be responsible for putting them all away at a certain time?
Good luck with all this, you sound as if you could use a break.
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