Parents fight to bring son home
Man staying in Vietnamese psychiatric facility
The parents of a New Zealand man hospitalised in a Vietnamese psychiatric facility are fighting to bring their son home. Ballad Woodley-Hanan, a former Kāpiti College student and ex-competitor with Raumati Swimming Club, is currently in a hospital outside of Ho Chi Minh with his father Dempsey Woodley, who travelled to Vietnam last week to support his son.
As the 25-year-old is a foreign national he needed his father present to be admitted — as well as assistance from the New Zealand Embassy.
Dempsey has been by his son’s side ever since, helping to care for him while he gets the treatment he needs.
The hospital, while providing Ballad the care he needs, is not the best place for him to be, his father told the NZ Herald.
“There’s no towels, the showers are cold. The places are not clean to a standard that you would have in a household in New Zealand, let alone a hospital.
“I wake up and there’s a massive, big cockroach crawling across the floor.”
Ballad’s mother Amanda Hanan, who lives in Napier, has started a Givealittle page to raise money so that Ballad and Dempsey can fly home to New Zealand.
She told the NZ Herald she first noticed her son’s erratic behaviour three weeks ago.
“He just started to get more and more manic but because he had no health or travel insurance and no parent there, there was nothing anyone could do for him.”
His girlfriend had messaged Amanda saying she was concerned as the pair were now staying in motels but kept getting kicked out because of Ballad’s behaviour. Then, he disappeared. Amanda was worried sick and when her son reappeared 12 hours later, he had a broken arm and lacerations, which she says was the kicker to finally getting him to a hospital with his father’s help.
“The minute Dempsey arrived in Vietnam it started to kick off,” Amanda said.
“The police had been called to where [Ballad] was staying, because of his behaviour — so the police came and so they called an ambulance and they made him get in the ambulance,” Amanda told the NZ Herald.
Dempsey told the NZ Herald he
believed he arrived just in time.
“He was going to die if I didn’t get him somewhere safe.”
Dempsey was glad to be with his son and said the pair’s connection meant that he could understand Ballad, despite the mania he was experiencing.
“He’s like a four-lane highway coming at you, jumping from lane to lane every two seconds. But the thing is because he’s my son and I raised him, I can make sense of it. I could see where he was jumping.”
With Dempsey there, Ballad could finally be admitted to the psychiatric ward where he has been since last week.
The hospital is barren, only providing enough to keep Ballad calm and sedated. Every day his father goes out to buy supplies like food and fresh drinking water.
He said despite the scarcity of the surroundings, the treatment Ballad is getting is progressive, and the medication he is being given is the same as what he would receive in a Western hospital.
Amanda said she’s grateful to have her son off the street and safe.
“We believe that if we hadn’t got there that he would have died,” she said.
“He was so manic that we absolutely felt that he was going to get in danger, someone would attack or hurt him or he’d be run over, you know, we absolutely believed he was very close to being killed.”
With Ballad now sedated in the hospital, the next hurdle to clear is bringing him home.
Dempsey said there were “a lot of moving parts” to bringing his son home.
“The complexity of getting him out of hospital and onto a plane — that all costs money,” he said.
A spokesperson from the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and Trade confirmed to the NZ Herald they were aware of Ballad’s situation and were providing consular assistance but did not disclose more due to privacy.
Amanda has started a Givealittle to raise the money needed to escort her son and his father back to New Zealand where he can receive more help.
So far, more than $20,000 has been raised.
“The kindness from everyone is just overwhelming,” she said.
Dempsey is also incredibly grateful for the help from the community.
“It is imperative he gets out and gets somewhere — we have never been able to get him out without that.”
■ Footnote: On Saturday, Hanan posted an update on the Givealittle page to say they had raised the $27,000 goal and had flexi-booked flights and were feeling positive about Ballad being home a week or so.