Manawatu Standard

Old neighbours sometimes know best

- Leonard Pitts Jr

‘‘Every generation blames the one before.’’ – Mike + The Mechanics. So I guess ‘‘OK Boomer’’ is a thing now. And I gather I’m supposed to be offended by it. Certainly, some people seem to be.

The saying – a dismissive eyeroll from Generation Z to their elders – is suddenly all the rage. It appears on hoodies, headlines, tweets and memes, this catch-all response to old folks’ nonstop nagging and criticism.

Somemember­s of the Baby Boom generation are not amused.

Maureen Dowd of The New York Times sees it as ‘‘intergener­ational war’’. Steve Cuozzo of The New York Post says the young ones ‘‘really, really hate us’’. Bob Lonsberry, a conservati­ve radio host, declared ‘‘boomer’’ – no joke – ‘‘the n-word of ageism’’.

Granted, these are media types – not real people – sowe should be careful about generalisi­ng.

I, for one, can’t say I really feel ‘‘hate’’ from young folks. But to whatever degree I should be taking this seriously – ‘‘You darn kids, get off my internet!’’ – I find that I can’t. I keep laughing instead.

It strikes me as funny that some in my generation, which defined itself by an insolent rejection of the old, are traumatise­d by a younger generation’s insolent rejection of us.

AMI the only one who remembers when the hippies warned, ‘‘Don’t trust anyone over 30?’’ Does no-one else recall when Pete Townshend sneered, ‘‘Hope I die before I get old’’?

Then how dare any of us clutch our pearls over a little intergener­ational sniping? Besides, it’s not as if the kids don’t have a point. Our record is certainly mixed.

I’d say our musicwas better than theirs, but they have better television – and more of it – than we could’ve dreamt. Boomers made great strides in civil rights for black people, women and the LGBTQ. But we dropped the ball on climate change, failed to address a rigged financial system. And we – the white cohort of us at least – bear blame for the catastroph­e of Trump. We deserve both credit and castigatio­n. Every generation does – even the ‘‘greatest’’.

When I was a kid, I used to tease this old man in the neighbourh­ood for being an old man in the neighbourh­ood. ‘‘Keep a’livin’,’’ he’d always retort.

And I did. And here I am, just turned 62 and wondering how the heck that happened. The Gen Z kids will too soon enough wonder the selfsame thing. The big wheel keeps on turning.

Usually that confers perspectiv­e and context, the soil from which wisdom grows. But you couldn’t prove that by these overwrough­t responses to young people’s taunts.

I’m rememberin­g teenage battles with my mom as I write this. As it happens, I’ve got Nat King Cole playing in the background. He was mom’s end-all and be-all. She didn’t want to hear any noise from my room about P-funk getting funked up, Papa being a rolling stone or midnight trains to Georgia.

As far as she was concerned, music stopped when King Cole died. I got sick of hearing his name, scorned him on general principle.

But I remember one day mom deigned to listen to the Stylistics withme. Afterward, she sniffed that Betcha By Gollywow was actually a pretty song to have such a silly title.

It was a backhanded compliment, but I felt vindicated by it just the same. I doubt she needed my vindicatio­n – adults didn’t need that from kids back then.

Still, somewhere in the intervenin­g decades, I decided Cole wasn’t so bad either. I just had to learn how to hear him – and I did.

So the kids may ‘‘OK’’ this Boomer to their heart’s content. Because as they will eventually discover, that old man in my neighbourh­ood was right.

Keep a’livin’ indeed.

Leonard Pitts is a columnist for The Miami Herald.

Some members of the Baby Boom generation are not amused.

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