from the editor
So many emails cross my desk every day. Some are filed for future reference, some are merely deleted. There are those that warrant an action, and then there are those that just stop you in your tracks.. One such email landed in my box just this week. I read the title with some bewilderment, wondering how the sender knew me so well. It was entitled “How to be a gracious bitch”. Naturally, this wasn’t going to be deleted.
I read, laughed, re-read and then almost cried laughing. Here’s how it went:
“Jennifer’s wedding day was fast approaching. Nothing could dampen her excitement - not even her parent’s nasty divorce.
Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear, and would be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!
A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her father’s new young wife had bought the exact same dress as her mother! Jennifer asked her father’s new young wife to exchange it, but she refused. “Absolutely not! I look like a million bucks in this dress, and I’m wearing it,” she replied. Jennifer told her mother who graciously said, ‘’Never mind sweetheart. I’ll get another dress. After all, it’s your special day.’’
A few days later, they went shopping, and did find another gorgeous dress for her mother. When they stopped for lunch, Jennifer asked her mother, ‘’Aren’t you going to return the other dress? You really don’t have another occasion where you could wear it.”
Her mother just smiled and replied, ‘’Of course I do, dear ... I’m wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night BEFORE the wedding.’’
My inner devil revelled in mum’s deviant graciousness. However, it led me to thinking about how often we tend to get mad over matters we can’t really change. The solution is often something rather simple, but we let the situation control us and blind us.
If you’re planning a wedding, you’re going to come across things, people or situations you simply can’t do much about. Take a step back, think outside the square and, as I learnt from an early age … don’t get mad, get even.