from the edi­tor

My Wedding - - FROM THE EDITOR -

So many emails cross my desk ev­ery day. Some are filed for fu­ture ref­er­ence, some are merely deleted. There are those that war­rant an ac­tion, and then there are those that just stop you in your tracks.. One such email landed in my box just this week. I read the ti­tle with some be­wil­der­ment, won­der­ing how the sender knew me so well. It was en­ti­tled “How to be a gra­cious bitch”. Nat­u­rally, this wasn’t go­ing to be deleted.

I read, laughed, re-read and then al­most cried laugh­ing. Here’s how it went:

“Jennifer’s wed­ding day was fast ap­proach­ing. Noth­ing could dampen her ex­cite­ment - not even her par­ent’s nasty di­vorce.

Her mother had found the PER­FECT dress to wear, and would be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!

A week later, Jennifer was hor­ri­fied to learn that her fa­ther’s new young wife had bought the ex­act same dress as her mother! Jennifer asked her fa­ther’s new young wife to ex­change it, but she re­fused. “Absolutely not! I look like a mil­lion bucks in this dress, and I’m wear­ing it,” she replied. Jennifer told her mother who gra­ciously said, ‘’Never mind sweet­heart. I’ll get an­other dress. Af­ter all, it’s your spe­cial day.’’

A few days later, they went shop­ping, and did find an­other gor­geous dress for her mother. When they stopped for lunch, Jennifer asked her mother, ‘’Aren’t you go­ing to re­turn the other dress? You re­ally don’t have an­other oc­ca­sion where you could wear it.”

Her mother just smiled and replied, ‘’Of course I do, dear ... I’m wear­ing it to the re­hearsal din­ner the night BE­FORE the wed­ding.’’

My in­ner devil rev­elled in mum’s de­viant gra­cious­ness. How­ever, it led me to think­ing about how of­ten we tend to get mad over mat­ters we can’t re­ally change. The so­lu­tion is of­ten some­thing rather sim­ple, but we let the sit­u­a­tion con­trol us and blind us.

If you’re plan­ning a wed­ding, you’re go­ing to come across things, peo­ple or sit­u­a­tions you sim­ply can’t do much about. Take a step back, think out­side the square and, as I learnt from an early age … don’t get mad, get even.

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