Bride with Child
Some say a woman is never more radiant and beautiful than when she is pregnant, and as long as your wedding day isn’t too close to your due date there’s no reason you can’t get married when you are expecting, even if it wasn’t what you’d planned. Alice Pounsford, who was 31 years old and 32 weeks pregnant with her third child on her March wedding day, says: “I wasn’t looking forward to the day because I thought it would be hard going, but it was amazing, the best day ever. It was because of the people, our family and friends; everybody chipped in and put in so much of themselves. Our families are very different and to see them kissing and hugging and laughing and enjoying each other’s company was just wonderful. “Leading up to the day I got tired with the late nights and last-minute planning, but I probably would have anyway. I don’t enjoy being pregnant and planning a wedding certainly gave me something else to concentrate on. “We had already set our wedding date before we got pregnant but we didn’t change the day because we had put several things in place. There were people who had booked their flights and arranged to come down to Oamaru [where the event was taking place], and if not now, then when? Soon we’d have a newborn, and for the forseeable future we were always going to have other things on our plate. “I had thought it would bother me that I couldn’t have a drink but it didn’t. Being pregnant probably saved me from myself! I was there for the whole thing, and it was so much better than I thought it would be.”
If pregnant, you’re likely to feel your best in your second trimester (between 13-26 weeks).
The dress: “I loved the dress I purchased before I got pregnant, so we just altered that,” says Alice Scott, who was 18 weeks pregnant on her wedding day. “But in hindsight I probably should have gone and tried other dresses on because it didn’t suit my changing body shape.” Emma advises a long, flowing style of wedding gown that will gently drape over your bump and minimise the need for alterations as your shape changes. Strapless may be problematic due to your growing bust. An empire line is flattering.
A wedding day is a long day for any bride, but especially one who is pregnant. Consider a morning or lunchtime wedding so that guests don’t expect to party long into the night. ( Alice found herself sober driving her guests home at 3am.) Make sure guests have access to a taxi service or dial a driver – and use it.
Make your ceremony a short and simple one. Set aside a chair in case you need to sit down.
Have a drink bottle of water with you and sip on it before, during and after the ceremony to stay hydrated.
Avoid any dramatic entrances on staircases – a pregnant woman’s centre of gravity shifts, and you probably won’t be able to see your feet.
Keep some healthy, nutritious and preggiefriendly snacks on hand to maintain energy levels throughout the day.
Have caterers provide a pregnancy friendly menu and plenty of non-alcoholic drink options. And if your bridesmaid gets pregnant, then all of the above applies to her too. Emma suggests, “You need to take special care of her and you can’t expect as much… You can’t have her climbing up ladders hanging things for you on the day or partying all night with you on your hen’s night! It’s best to sit down and talk with her. You can’t assume that just because she’s now pregnant she doesn’t want to be your bridesmaid any more, and if you make any decisions without communicating with her she might assume you think she’ll ruin the photos. By the same token, she might prefer a smaller role, such as a reading. Ask her how she feels.”