Bride with Child

New Zealand Weddings - - CHILDREN -

Some say a woman is never more ra­di­ant and beau­ti­ful than when she is preg­nant, and as long as your wed­ding day isn’t too close to your due date there’s no rea­son you can’t get mar­ried when you are ex­pect­ing, even if it wasn’t what you’d planned. Alice Pounsford, who was 31 years old and 32 weeks preg­nant with her third child on her March wed­ding day, says: “I wasn’t look­ing for­ward to the day be­cause I thought it would be hard go­ing, but it was amaz­ing, the best day ever. It was be­cause of the peo­ple, our fam­ily and friends; ev­ery­body chipped in and put in so much of them­selves. Our fam­i­lies are very dif­fer­ent and to see them kiss­ing and hug­ging and laugh­ing and en­joy­ing each other’s com­pany was just won­der­ful. “Lead­ing up to the day I got tired with the late nights and last-minute plan­ning, but I prob­a­bly would have any­way. I don’t en­joy be­ing preg­nant and plan­ning a wed­ding cer­tainly gave me some­thing else to con­cen­trate on. “We had al­ready set our wed­ding date be­fore we got preg­nant but we didn’t change the day be­cause we had put sev­eral things in place. There were peo­ple who had booked their flights and ar­ranged to come down to Oa­maru [where the event was tak­ing place], and if not now, then when? Soon we’d have a new­born, and for the forsee­able fu­ture we were al­ways go­ing to have other things on our plate. “I had thought it would bother me that I couldn’t have a drink but it didn’t. Be­ing preg­nant prob­a­bly saved me from my­self! I was there for the whole thing, and it was so much bet­ter than I thought it would be.”

If preg­nant, you’re likely to feel your best in your sec­ond trimester (be­tween 13-26 weeks).

The dress: “I loved the dress I pur­chased be­fore I got preg­nant, so we just al­tered that,” says Alice Scott, who was 18 weeks preg­nant on her wed­ding day. “But in hind­sight I prob­a­bly should have gone and tried other dresses on be­cause it didn’t suit my chang­ing body shape.” Emma ad­vises a long, flow­ing style of wed­ding gown that will gen­tly drape over your bump and min­imise the need for al­ter­ations as your shape changes. Strap­less may be prob­lem­atic due to your grow­ing bust. An em­pire line is flat­ter­ing.

A wed­ding day is a long day for any bride, but es­pe­cially one who is preg­nant. Con­sider a morn­ing or lunchtime wed­ding so that guests don’t ex­pect to party long into the night. ( Alice found her­self sober driv­ing her guests home at 3am.) Make sure guests have ac­cess to a taxi ser­vice or dial a driver – and use it.

Make your cer­e­mony a short and sim­ple one. Set aside a chair in case you need to sit down.

Have a drink bot­tle of wa­ter with you and sip on it be­fore, dur­ing and af­ter the cer­e­mony to stay hy­drated.

Avoid any dra­matic en­trances on stair­cases – a preg­nant woman’s cen­tre of grav­ity shifts, and you prob­a­bly won’t be able to see your feet.

Keep some healthy, nu­tri­tious and preg­giefriendly snacks on hand to main­tain energy lev­els through­out the day.

Have cater­ers pro­vide a preg­nancy friendly menu and plenty of non-al­co­holic drink op­tions. And if your brides­maid gets preg­nant, then all of the above ap­plies to her too. Emma sug­gests, “You need to take spe­cial care of her and you can’t ex­pect as much… You can’t have her climb­ing up lad­ders hang­ing things for you on the day or par­ty­ing all night with you on your hen’s night! It’s best to sit down and talk with her. You can’t as­sume that just be­cause she’s now preg­nant she doesn’t want to be your brides­maid any more, and if you make any de­ci­sions with­out com­mu­ni­cat­ing with her she might as­sume you think she’ll ruin the photos. By the same to­ken, she might pre­fer a smaller role, such as a read­ing. Ask her how she feels.”

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