Mum is an ‘emotional wreck’ after bad luck
A cancer patient who had just undergone her second mastectomy says she is at the end of her tether.
Just days after Karen Beckhouse was admitted to hospital in January for a blood infection, her car was stolen from outside her West Harbour home.
Now, she has no way of visiting her terminally-ill daughter who lives on the other side of Auckland.
‘‘It’s just one thing after the other,’’ Beckhouse said.
‘‘We’ve just had so much bad luck as a family.’’
Beckhouse was first diagnosed with breast cancer in 2000. She underwent a partial mastectomy but the cancer came back in March 2017.
Her left breast was removed in November.
Beckhouse said her daughter Michelle Elliot was diagnosed with a brain tumour five years ago.
Her diagnosis of oligodendrogliomas accounted for about 3.5 per cent of primary brain tumours, the Brain Tumour Charity website said.
She was given up to 10 years to live but Beckhouse said she was deteriorating.
‘‘It’s horrible. She gets her sentences muddled up and it’s really sad.
‘‘I’ve tried [helping] but I just end up sick. It’s just stress and worry about how we are going to cope.’’
Beckhouse said her daughter was living on her own with four children.
Seizures stopped her from being able to drive, so Beckhouse drove to her.
But with her car stolen and no insurance, she couldn’t visit.
Beckhouse wasn’t able to let police know about the car until a month later because she had been sick.
‘‘Without a car, I can’t see her,’’ the 60-year-old said. ‘‘Now I’m just an emotional wreck.’’
Beckhouse said she was trying to deal with the family issues during her month-long stay at Waita¯ kere Hospital.
But the stress made it worse. ‘‘One nurse said I was allowed to cry and I said ‘I won’t stop’.
‘‘That doesn’t achieve anything. I need to do something to help them.’’
Beckhouse had set up a Givealittle page to try raise money to help Elliot as she couldn’t do so herself.
The money would go towards Elliot spending quality time with her children before she got too sick and potentially move closer to family.
Karen Beckhouse has had a belt of bad luck with breast cancer, a terminally-ill daughter and a stolen car.