Mother of two goes back to school — with her son
Against the norm, a mother has gone back to school in Purnarbas, southwest Nepal. Gopal Sharma reports from Kathmandu
ANepali mother of two, Parwati Sunar finds herself attending the same school as her son after returning to an education system she fled at the age of 15 when she eloped with a man seven years her senior.
‘‘I enjoy learning and am proud to attend with classmates who are like my own children,’’ Sunar said from her village of Punarbas on the southwestern edge of the Himalayan nation, where she studies in seventh grade (year 8).
About 57% of women are literate in the country of 29 million.
Sunar (27) said she hoped to become ‘‘literate enough’’ to be able to keep household accounts.
‘‘I think I should not have left my school,’’ she said, explaining the desire to catch up on the lessons she missed, having had her first child at 16.
‘‘I feel good to go to school with mum,’’ said her son, Resham
(11), who is a grade behind his mother. He spends lunch breaks with her and rides pillion as she cycles to computer classes they attend at an institute nearby.
‘‘We chat as we walk to school and we learn from our conversation,’’ he said, adding that his mother hoped he could become a doctor.
As a student, Sunar was below average, but a keen learner, Bharat Basnet, the principal of the village school, said.
Her day begins at dawn in a tinroofed, tworoom structure of bare bricks shared with sons Resham and Arjun and her motherinlaw, with their goats penned into one area. Their daily routine involves bathing in water drawn from a hand pump outside their home, working in the verdant fields around it, and even making cakes for birthdays that a smiling Resham celebrates with a hibiscus flower tucked above one ear.
Sunar’s husband works as a labourer in the southern Indian city of Chennai in order to support his family.
They belong to the Dalit community, formerly known as untouchables, on the lowest rungs of the Hindu caste system, but Sunar said the family faced no illtreatment over this.
‘‘Noone discriminates against me or my family,’’ she said.
After a simple meal of rice and lentils, Sunar puts on the school uniform of light blue blouse and skirt with a striped tie before taking the 20minute walk with her son to the school, also a tinroofed structure, surrounded by trees.
Her efforts could inspire village women thirsty to learn beyond their domestic horizons in Nepal, where they still face discrimination and child marriage is widespread, even though illegal.
Enrolment of girls in basic education, or grades 1 to 8, is 94.4%, official data shows, but Krishna Thapa, president of the Federation of Community Schools, said nearly half dropped out for reasons ranging from lack of text books to poverty.
‘‘Schools lack infrastructure, such as toilets for girls,’’ Thapa added.
‘‘Most girls drop out during their period because there are no toilets.’’
But Sunar, who gave up a job as a housemaid in neighbouring India to return to her studies, said she was determined to finish the 12th grade.
‘‘What lies ahead, I don’t know.’’ — Reuters