I have the most embarrassing question in the world, so this had better be confidential. I get too wet when I’m turned on during sex and that means my partner just slips in and out and I can hardly feel him.
He says it’s not a problem and he still gets pleasure. I think he’s got an average sized penis and he gets very hard so it’s not him.
Something must be wrong in my body, is it correctable? I’m too embarrassed to ask my doctor.
Is there an operation to make my vagina entrance smaller so I can at least feel what’s happening or are there exercises I can do?
It happens before orgasm so it’s not the squirting during orgasm I’ve read about and it’s definitely not urine. You’re not the first person who has asked me about producing excessive lubrication – and there are ways to deal with it – so don’t worry. It’s great you can readily get turned on, it’s just your body does too good a job while other women’s bodies struggle to produce any natural lubrication. As you get older, this problem may reduce by itself, but let’s focus on how to manage it right now so you have many years of thoroughly enjoyable sex ahead.
You can put a menstrual sea sponge inside your vagina before intercourse. It will soak up much of the lubrication; one of you will just need long fingers to get it out afterwards. Read online for how to care for it. Alternatively, try using a condom to add more friction or try having a soft cotton cloth handy and have your partner incorporate gentle wiping up of the excess moisture as part of your lovemaking. You may want to try taking a decongestant before sex as it dries mucosal tissues out. Pelvic floor exercises are useful for everyone. Identify the muscles you clench when you’re rushing to the loo to pee. Envisage these muscles at the entrance to the vagina as if they are a horizontal version of the saloon doors in the old cowboy movies and swing them up and down.
Ultimately, increasing your pleasure will also involve identifying what kinds of friction you’re seeking and ensuring you use one or more of these strategies to achieve it.