DEAR MR SALISBURY:
Is the seven-year itch a real thing? This year I am finding myself increasingly bored with the sex we are having. It’s got to the point that I almost can’t be bothered and just go along with it to a) not rock the boat and b) get some physical relief. Our sex life was great at first, then we settled into what was initially a pleasurable routine… But now someone or something has hijacked the pleasure! My partner has put on a bit of weight, but then so have I, so I can’t blame that. We do try to ring the changes sometimes in position, location and time of day, as I’ve seen you recommending those things to others, but ultimately the light has gone out. My values don’t allow an affair, so is it time to leave?
Robyn Salisbury is a clinical psychologist.
Email questions to MrsSalisbury@sextherapy.co.nz.