HARRY SAYS… These are the lip­sticks to keep in your bag all sum­mer

Sun­days are a very so­cial day for Louise Wal­lace but there’s an empti­ness she hopes to fill. In the mean­time, she tells Aroha Awa­rau, there are cats to cud­dle.

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the beach.

We would have had a big night the night

be­fore be­cause there’s a big party scene

out there. We would wake up late and then

text our friends, who live next door, ask­ing

them if they would like to have a walk along

the most beau­ti­ful the beach in the world.

We’ll then have ba­con and eggs at the lo­cal

cafe, be­fore head­ing home with the Sun­day

papers and catch­ing up on all the news.

Most peo­ple like to get their news on­line,

but we come from the gen­er­a­tion where

we’d rather have the printed news­pa­per in

our hands.

If the weather is good, we would launch the

boat and sail to Kawau Is­land for a pic­nic. If the weather’s bad we’ll go out for lunch, after that we’ll play nine holes of golf – badly.

Then about 5pm we’ll head home to Auck­land and go out for din­ner. So it’s a big day. There’s a lot of so­cial­is­ing, a lot of eat­ing and a lot of drink­ing.

The great thing about en­ter­tain­ing in Omaha is that there’s far less pres­sure. If you’re not a con­fi­dent cook, like I am, then the ex­pec­ta­tions are lower be­cause peo­ple just ex­pect you to plonk some­thing on the bar­be­cue, whip up a salad, roast pota­toes and put fresh straw­ber­ries on ice­cream.

I love go­ing to Omaha be­cause I want to make good use of the nice weather and the last ves­tiges of youth.

I keep youth­ful by keep­ing fit. Scott and

I ex­er­cise ev­ery day, but Sun­day is dif­fer­ent be­cause we fin­ish off our walk by eat­ing ba­con and eggs. Dur­ing the week we are very good, but on Sun­days we go the whole hog.

But my Sun­day would look very dif­fer­ent if I was act­ing in a play. If the play is open­ing that week, Sun­day will be the day when we will pack into the the­atre and sort out all the tech­ni­cal is­sues.

Act­ing in plays is my only creative out­let. I set up my own the­atre com­pany and the great thing about that is you can cast your­self in your plays.

As an ac­tor, most of the time you’re look­ing for work or peo­ple are look­ing for work on your be­half. Other­wise you’ll be sit­ting on your bum do­ing noth­ing.

In the win­ter, my Sun­day looks very dif­fer­ent. I’m in my bed by 2pm, I’m at home with my cats, Mil­lie and Louie, who is a cross-eyed rag doll, and they lie on me or around me or fight be­tween them­selves on the bed. That’s my idea of heaven.

At night it would be Thai take­aways and watch­ing Net­flix. I watch any­thing to do with se­rial killing, mur­der, crime, in­trigue, sex, lust. That’s what I love.

Some­times I wish my two adult chil­dren were here, but they both live in Syd­ney. I wish we all could have a Sun­day roast to­gether.

I have my fingers to­tally crossed that they will some day come back here to live, once they’ve got be­ing away out of their sys­tems.

Ash­ley, 27, has been away for 10 years, and Guy, 24, has been away for six years. I would dearly love for them to re­turn, with their

Is it your man’s stereo­typ­i­cal traits that are an­noy­ing you – his pre­dictabil­ity – or are you in fact say­ing there doesn’t seem much room for you in this re­la­tion­ship? Or could this be a re­ac­tion that is about more than him? Do you carry old anger at an­other man or men in gen­eral? Or are you yearn­ing for more soft­ness, more car­ing and more at­ten­tion? Try to hone in on what lies be­hind your wan­ing at­trac­tion. You’re fram­ing this as deficits in him but equally, li­bido drops can be an im­por­tant alert to you that you are too stressed, too tired, de­pressed or anx­ious, not keep­ing fit, or that you’re un­well. Un­der any of those cir­cum­stances, sex­ual en­ergy can slide out the back door.

Are you at­tracted to some­one else or has your li­bido dropped across the board? If the lat­ter, give all these ideas some thought then talk to your man, en­sur­ing there are no im­por­tant sports matches on at the time! Get clear whether you still have en­ergy to put into res­ur­rect­ing this re­la­tion­ship and, if so, ask for his par­tic­i­pa­tion as you can’t do that by your­self. Rather than list­ing his faults, be ready to tell him specif­i­cally what you would like from him.

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