HARRY SAYS… These are the lipsticks to keep in your bag all summer
Sundays are a very social day for Louise Wallace but there’s an emptiness she hopes to fill. In the meantime, she tells Aroha Awarau, there are cats to cuddle.
We would have had a big night the night
before because there’s a big party scene
out there. We would wake up late and then
text our friends, who live next door, asking
them if they would like to have a walk along
the most beautiful the beach in the world.
We’ll then have bacon and eggs at the local
cafe, before heading home with the Sunday
papers and catching up on all the news.
Most people like to get their news online,
but we come from the generation where
we’d rather have the printed newspaper in
If the weather is good, we would launch the
boat and sail to Kawau Island for a picnic. If the weather’s bad we’ll go out for lunch, after that we’ll play nine holes of golf – badly.
Then about 5pm we’ll head home to Auckland and go out for dinner. So it’s a big day. There’s a lot of socialising, a lot of eating and a lot of drinking.
The great thing about entertaining in Omaha is that there’s far less pressure. If you’re not a confident cook, like I am, then the expectations are lower because people just expect you to plonk something on the barbecue, whip up a salad, roast potatoes and put fresh strawberries on icecream.
I love going to Omaha because I want to make good use of the nice weather and the last vestiges of youth.
I keep youthful by keeping fit. Scott and
I exercise every day, but Sunday is different because we finish off our walk by eating bacon and eggs. During the week we are very good, but on Sundays we go the whole hog.
But my Sunday would look very different if I was acting in a play. If the play is opening that week, Sunday will be the day when we will pack into the theatre and sort out all the technical issues.
Acting in plays is my only creative outlet. I set up my own theatre company and the great thing about that is you can cast yourself in your plays.
As an actor, most of the time you’re looking for work or people are looking for work on your behalf. Otherwise you’ll be sitting on your bum doing nothing.
In the winter, my Sunday looks very different. I’m in my bed by 2pm, I’m at home with my cats, Millie and Louie, who is a cross-eyed rag doll, and they lie on me or around me or fight between themselves on the bed. That’s my idea of heaven.
At night it would be Thai takeaways and watching Netflix. I watch anything to do with serial killing, murder, crime, intrigue, sex, lust. That’s what I love.
Sometimes I wish my two adult children were here, but they both live in Sydney. I wish we all could have a Sunday roast together.
I have my fingers totally crossed that they will some day come back here to live, once they’ve got being away out of their systems.
Ashley, 27, has been away for 10 years, and Guy, 24, has been away for six years. I would dearly love for them to return, with their
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