Hui to help with grief and healing
People touched by suicide are being offered support through a series of short community hui to be held throughout Taranaki.
‘‘We’re very mindful that there are many individuals who have been impacted by tragedies – some very, very close to them,’’ Jamie Allen, who founded Taranaki Retreat, said.
‘‘Our hearts go out to every person who is grieving in our community. We see you. We want you to know the extent of the aroha and manaakitanga that surrounds you.’’
Allen was speaking on behalf of the Taranaki Suicide Prevention Group, which is organising the community hui for anybody who has lost someone through suicide at any time – this year or decades ago.
The group is a collective of whānau, services and organisations that work together to provide support and care throughout the region to reduce suicide.
Members of the group include Tui Ora, Victim Support, New Plymouth Injury Safe, Central Taranaki Safe Community Trust, Taranaki Retreat, Taranaki Rural Support Trust, Building
Wellness Taranaki Trust, Yellow Brick Road, Hope Walk New Plymouth Taranaki, Taranaki RATS (Riders Against Teenage Suicide), Witt, Te Whatu Ora Taranaki, Pinnacle Midlands Health Network – Taranaki, other community supports, those with lived experience, and whānau.
Allen is involved in organising
the community hui for people who have been affected by suicide so they can get together for support. The hui are also for those who are concerned about somebody’s safety.
‘‘Each hui will be around an hour long, followed by kai. You won’t be expected to speak up if you don’t want to – it will be fine just to ‘be present’,’’ he said.
‘‘There are many options and choices, and we work to make sure that they are available to whānau in a timely and safe manner.
‘‘We also want to make sure that people know the range of options that are available, and how to access them – both in the immediate term – or months/ years later.
‘‘Our grief doesn’t just go away – we all need support to heal and get through it.’’
When the hui would take place would be determined by those who registered, Allen said.
‘‘We think about it as providing a watering hole to gather around, involving a wide range of local organisations.’’
At these ‘‘watering holes’’, there will be an option for one-onone support and debriefing, along with the opportunity for karakia, lighting a candle in memory, reflection, and working in small groups (optional).
Anyone interested is invited to register for the hui, which are taking place this month and in December.
They will include gatherings scoped specifically for children and teenagers to be included; for adults only, and for men/women only to attend.
Specific communities, such as workplaces, marae, whānau, sports groups or faith communities, can also register for a hui to be arranged specifically for their people. These can be convened anywhere within the Taranaki region.
‘‘The concept is, we will come to you,’’ Allen said.
‘‘You don’t have to do the reaching out, which we know from our own experience is incredibly hard to do. We want to meet up kanohi-ki-te-kanohi and gather together – for it is in the combined strength of being together that we bring about change.’’
Allen urges anybody reading this story to spread the word, as widely as possible, so nobody misses out.
Registration can be done online via taranakiretreat.org. nz/hui or by calling Taranaki Retreat on 06 215 0993.
For more information about the upcoming series of community hui, contact Jamie Allen at careteam@taranakiretreat.org. nz or 06 215 0993, or Taranaki Suicide Prevention and Postvention coordinator Sam Mahy at Taranakisuicideprevention @tuiora.co.nz or 027 406 0608.