The won­der­ful art of bring­ing up boys

The Invercargill Eye - - CONVERSATIONS -

waiver my friend – if you plan to give in, give up.

If you start to com­plete the jobs you’ve rea­son­ably re­quested, we could be in a spot of bother too – a lit­tle help never goes astray - but if you plan to do it all any­way (e.g. re­make the bed ‘prop­erly’) – why bother with all the drama in the first place? Yes, it is eas­ier at times, but who ex­actly for? And what did you just teach them by tak­ing over/do­ing it all?

You could give them some ba­sic daily must-do’s for the cur­tains/bed/teeth/pets/lunch, and then a ro­ta­tional, weekly af­ter­noon ‘job’ to help out the fam­ily – un­paid. An­other mire we can fall into is al­ways re­ward­ing the task. Then comes the ex­pec­ta­tion that we only help out at home for a treat or money.

Some­times, we should be do­ing ‘stuff’ be­cause we are part of a cool fam­ily and all have a part to play in mak­ing our house­hold tick over. We have fam­ily who take us to sports and ac­tiv­i­ties. We have peo­ple in our lives who care enough to want us to grow into in­de­pen­dent young men who don’t plan flat­mates around get­ting a chick in to cook and clean..ahem. It’s re­ward enough to be able to look af­ter your­self in this ever chang­ing world.

By sit­ting down as a team and work­ing on this to­gether you may find more suc­cess. To­tally worth the ef­fort, but you need to do what works for you and your awe­some tribe.


Jo Smith is a mother of five wee dar­lings, teacher and school trustee

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