Feeling stuck

People often want things to change in their lives without actually wanting to do one of two key things — change their situation, or change themselves.

They just want things (or other people) to be different. Dadah! Which is cool. Except it doesn’t work like that. You can’t have change with nothing changing.

If you are “feeling stuck”, know you are your own solution. Instead of wanting the people and things around you to change to better suit you, look at the courage and action required from you to create change.

This might mean facing a choice that is hard, controversial or inconvenient. It also might mean you need to sacrifice something you would rather not. It might mean getting way past your zone of comfort. Way past.

You want more money? Then you might need to change jobs, retrain, start a side hustle business in the evenings, ask for a promotion: any matter of boundary-pushing moves or sacrifices of time or comfort.

You want more love? Then you might need to have a very brave and honest conversation with your partner, or book date nights and actively listen and put time in to plan a little romance, or get past the fear of online dating and get back out there.

You want to be fit? Then you might need to sacrifice time running round after everyone else to go running, or say no to food on offer at social events and get past your fear of offending your host, or actually go to Crossfit and not press snooze for the third time.

We are only ever as stuck as we choose to believe we are. But you want things to change, you have to change some things. The key word there is you. You can create the change you are after. If you want different, you need to do different.