HUMANS OF KAITAIA
The most vital job
Ithink, as mum, we all feel overwhelmed sometimes. It’s a hard but job, but the most important job ever — to raise well balanced, nice people.
My kids get into mischief, like everyone else’s. They are normal kids. It’s important to me to talk to them and keep in touch with what’s happening in their lives.
We have a wha¯ nau hui each fortnight, where we chat and set small goals that we can follow up with each of them, one on one. They just love being listened to and being involved.
Every family is unique, but in our family we have five main goals that we are working on with each of our children — that they learn te reo and attend mauri and kura kaupapa, that they volunteer (we like to give to the SPCA or sponsor a child), to have faith (their actions count; it’s good to learn about people by understanding faith), to learn to swim (we live by the beach so we want them to be able to swim), to play an instrument (we think it’s a central part of their development, and playing an instrument will always generate fun).
Our wha¯ nau beliefs are tika, aroha and pono, which is an old Ma¯ ori way of thinking from Pa Henare, and was taught to us by my husband’s nana. It’s our wha¯ nau tikanga, and the way we live.