Ask Polly

Get ad­vice from fast-talk­ing Rova and More FM star Polly Gillespie

Woman’s Day (NZ) - - Contents -

QRe­cently, my flat­mate went over­seas and came back with a new girl­friend, who’s moved in with­out any dis­cus­sion. I own the house and feel like I have been bull­dozed into hav­ing an ex­tra flat­mate I don’t even par­tic­u­larly like. As she is from over­seas, she isn’t work­ing, so she’s at the house most of the time. There has been no of­fer to con­trib­ute to rent or util­i­ties. Help!

●● Freeloader, Welling­ton

ANow is your time to be as­sertive. You own the house, right? Say po­litely to him, “You are my tenant. You are pay­ing to live here. You are not pay­ing for two peo­ple to live here. I don’t want an ex­tra flat­mate, so your friend will have to stay else­where. Should you not like that idea, I to­tally un­der­stand if you want to move too. I want you both to be happy. How­ever, this sit­u­a­tion isn’t mak­ing me happy, so I need you to ad­dress this in the next week please. I hope you un­der­stand.” And if he leaves, then screw it. Get a new flat­mate!

Q Do you think a cou­ple who vote dif­fer­ently – at op­po­site ends of the po­lit­i­cal spec­trum – can ever truly be in love?

●● Oh, Bee­hive!, via email

A Ab­so­lutely. My mum and dad were mar­ried for­ever un­til Dad passed away. Mum was staunch Labour and Dad staunch dou­ble-tick-blue Na­tional. Dad would al­ways say, “Sweet­heart, you’re just can­celling my vote!” And Mum would sim­ply smile.

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