Get advice from fast-talking Rova and More FM star Polly Gillespie
QRecently, my flatmate went overseas and came back with a new girlfriend, who’s moved in without any discussion. I own the house and feel like I have been bulldozed into having an extra flatmate I don’t even particularly like. As she is from overseas, she isn’t working, so she’s at the house most of the time. There has been no offer to contribute to rent or utilities. Help!
●● Freeloader, Wellington
ANow is your time to be assertive. You own the house, right? Say politely to him, “You are my tenant. You are paying to live here. You are not paying for two people to live here. I don’t want an extra flatmate, so your friend will have to stay elsewhere. Should you not like that idea, I totally understand if you want to move too. I want you both to be happy. However, this situation isn’t making me happy, so I need you to address this in the next week please. I hope you understand.” And if he leaves, then screw it. Get a new flatmate!
Q Do you think a couple who vote differently – at opposite ends of the political spectrum – can ever truly be in love?
●● Oh, Beehive!, via email
A Absolutely. My mum and dad were married forever until Dad passed away. Mum was staunch Labour and Dad staunch double-tick-blue National. Dad would always say, “Sweetheart, you’re just cancelling my vote!” And Mum would simply smile.