Ask Polly

Get advice from fast-talking Rova and More FM star Polly Gillespie

Q My new partner’s cat is quite the little miss. I swear she gives me the evil eye and seems to always come into the bedroom when it’s least convenient. I don’t even like cats! Do I just ignore her or pretend to like her?

Not Feline It, via email A Cats love to be ignored. I suggest a mix of completely ignoring her most of the time, but occasionally giving her a treat from your pocket. She’ll respect your cat-like duplicity! QMy husband and I both turn 50 soon, and we’re at odds about how we’re going to celebrate. He wants a combined party at a local hall, but I want a party at home. He is dead against having a party at home as he says the house will get ruined. But we’re hardly young kids! How do we make this work?

Surprise!, Wanaka A Have the party elsewhere and hire people to clean. Adults are the worst-behaved children. I’m absolutely with your husband on this one. There’s only so much a Rug Doctor can fix!