Hollywood’s closest clan
Goldie and Kate’s lessons in love
When it comes to mother-daughter relationships, Goldie Hawn and Kate Hudson have the one to beat. These days, the actresses seem closer than ever. They love to laugh together, shop together and even holiday together with their partners Kurt Russell, 68, and Danny Fujikawa, 33. So what’s the secret to their special bond?
With her sunny blonde looks and can-do attitude, many might see Kate, 40, as her 73-year-old mother’s mini-me – but Goldie insists they aren’t carbon copies.
“She’s actually very different from me,” Goldie asserts. “Katie is a powerful girl. I’m not saying that I’m not powerful too, but Katie also has a lot of dramatic abilities. She’s amazing and I’m ecstatic about her success. I’m proud of all my kids.”
Goldie was married twice – to director Gus Trikonis and then Kate’s father, musician Bill Hudson – before falling for actor Kurt, who she has been with for a much-envied 36 years.
The pair adore spending time with their son Wyatt and blended family, which includes Kate, her brother Oliver and Kurt’s son Boston from his marriage to EscapefromNew York co-star Season Hubley.
Friendly exes
Similarly, Kate has a complicated dating history. The star married The Black Crowes frontman Chris Robinson in 2000, and three years later had a son, Ryder, now 15. After they divorced, Kate moved on to Muse frontman Matt Bellamy. They split in 2014 but remain on good terms and co-parent their son Bingham, eight. Kate, now with Danny, welcomed a daughter, Rani Rose, in October 2018.
Goldie describes her daughter as a “brilliant” parent, while Kate credits her mum for helping her navigate the challenges of having three children with three different men.
“I think the one thing I learned from my mum is that no matter what, I never heard a bad word about my father,” she has said.
Goldie taught Kate the importance of “always having the right intentions”.
The wise Overboard star says, “The important thing in life is to be the best person
you can be. I want ant my children and my grandchildren hildren to learn to be as happy as they can – not because of f work – in spite of work.”
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It’s a grounded ed attitude, perhaps inspired ed by her mother’s own experience of being a young g star.
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“I was having g a very difficult time. I’d risen to o success very young and it was as something I didn’t aspire to o on such a level. Fame wasn’t sn’t something I believed in. I was having anxiety attacks about it.”
The Snatched actress says meditating helped her find happiness through “peace of mind” – and it’s a concept Kate clearly values too.
The star gushes about her union with Danny, saying, “It’s just this really amazing, calm relationship that is beautiful. I’d known him for many years before we got together, but we never saw each other like that for a long time. Then we just sort of looked at each other and went, ‘Oh wow, this is weird, I really like you.’”
Life partners
It’s perhaps because of Goldie and Kate’s relationship histories that together they’ve figured out the key to a happy and healthy union. All-up, they’re one big happy family – the happiest in Hollywood, in fact!
“Love is strange,” muses Goldie. “To be in love is to feel that your secret self is understood by the other person and vice-versa. That’s the kind of bond that exists between Kurt and me. Ever since we first met, we knew we made a great partnership.
“That’s why we never bothered to get married. It would’ve seemed unnatural to make a formal commitment when a much deeper one was there from the beginning. But it’s very rare to stay together as long as we have and still love each other as much as we do.”
She adds, “All relationships have a life – and you have to be very lucky for the life of your relationship to last forever. If you’re not lucky, or if it’s your destiny to go down another path, that’s what happens. That is why the marriage part seems pointless to me – because no-one knows anything.”
Goldie says she’s been lucky, pointing to “forgiveness and spontaneity” as key components for success and admitting “monogamy is a very tough order”.
She’s been outspoken about how “elasticity” in a relationship is key to stopping it breaking, and Kate shares a similar view.
“You have to allow people their independence,” advises Kate. “Also, just because you are with someone doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate other attractive people. It’s kind of nice. It keeps you on your toes.”
This mother and daughter duo may be liberal in their views, but it’s clear they share a lot of life’s values – and a commitment to family, no matter what the challenges.
“I love my family and I feel very blessed to be a mother and grandmother,” Goldie concludes. “I’m very lucky to have that in my life.”