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LAZY HUBBY ALERT

Kia ora, Jay-Jay!

Please help me – my husband is lazy and it’s driving me batty! He works five days a week, but his days off are Monday and Tuesday. I spend most of Saturday cleaning our house, but he does nothing on his days off at all. When I come home after work, the bed is unmade, his dirty clothes are still on the floor and there are dishes on the bench that he hasn’t even bothered to put in the dishwasher.

He doesn’t sit around all day and watch TV or anything. He tinkers in his shed or pops out to visit his mate for lunch. But he does absolutely nothing around the house and it’s killing the romance, I tell you.

We have no kids and have been married for two years. Of course, I have told him to get off his arse and do something, but he calls me a “nag”, which infuriates me. Help, help, help!

Karina, Tauranga

Kia ora, Karina!

Ooh, this is a tough one. Why don’t our partners realise that if they just did what they had to do, we would never need to nag?!

This is going to take a “let’s sit down and talk because I mean business” chat. You really need to let him see how frustrating and tiresome it is for you to come home to this mess on his days off. You’re actually not asking for much – these jobs would only take a few minutes!

Sometimes our partners can be oblivious to the mess they leave around them, which is why you need to sit him down and tell him seriously how much it would mean to you

– and your marriage – if he just helped out a little in this department.

If you both have a sense of humour, perhaps you can make him a star chart for the wall with his tasks on it? Lol. Well, he is behaving like a small child after all. His mummy isn’t around to pick up after him any more. It’s time for him to start adulting.

If he doesn’t improve, another great way to get your message across would be to put all of his dirty clothes and dishes on his side of the bed. He can sleep with them or deal with them… Good luck with that!

Jay-Jay

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