What will be, will be!

The song by Doris Day had repeatedly been playing in my head, taking me back through childhood while my dad drove, with me in the front seat of our gold v-boot (Volvo) singing along;

When I was just a little girl

I asked my mother, what will I be

Will I be pretty?

Will I be rich?

Here’s what she said to me

Que será, será

Whatever will be, will be

The future’s not ours to see

Que será, será

What will be, will be

For the first time, I decided to put meaning into the message. ‘ What will be, will be,” a philosophy many of us today struggle to understand or have faith in. Do we have no control over the outcomes of our lives? Is everything out of our control? Some might see this song as an act of defeat; why bother? When what will be will be.

Sometimes, life happens and throws us various obstacles; these obstacles can become distractions that get in the way of seeing where our life is headed and pushing us to give up. At this point, do we bow our heads and say what will be will be? Or change the focus and choose another path.

The truth is, though we have little or no control over the output of life, we surely have control over what we input, continuously knowing that putting in work may one day yield us a more significant outcome. It may not come at the time we want it, but with persistence, it would come as and when due.

So, on the contrary even though we do not know our future, we still have a part to play in the outcome of our future by working hard and working smart. Just be patient, life will happen; it will be okay.

Chioma Nwosu is a mental health/positive psychology advocate, speaker and founder of Olamma Cares Foundation an NGO focused on encouraging the social acceptance of developmental disabilities and mental disorders, finding and implementing long term solutions of these conditions through training, capacity building, advocacy and intervention.

Email: cnwosu@olammacares.com Instagram: _olamma_