Re-married For 11 Years And In Love With Another Man. Is It Normal?
Guilt does not deliver us from the great pains of death, but it can torment us even more than we are sufferring and dying now. Deliverance comes with the True (Pure & Honest) "Light" of Goodness & "Pure" Love. Pure Love casts out all fear, and it also considers many others above my own self because when I find Pure Love I find the deliverance that comes from being delivered from my own self will.
Was in the same boat, but I realized it was my self will that led me to this place of darkness, pain and therefore it is self will that wars against me and now I know "Who" my enemy is! Knowing "who" is half the battle. It never was him, and it's not even myself I need to hate, and self will is NOT the best part of me, there really is a part of me that is not subject to the power of self will and that is the part I MUST seek now!
What if I did not surrender to the desires of my self will but chose to do the opposite? I "always... Thought"...and when I "Thought" I began to feel the pains of dying come back again, so now I know... my "Thinking" has been "used" by my enemy to torment me in hell.
We are not all the way home yet... this is only part of the journey. So Kay you need to work on your self will. Goodluck
Ama
I totally understand you. Someejow I feel we
Re: How do I solve this?
Without perseverance, you can't control anger, this should be your watchword as a man. It is only you who can work on your temper, I suggest you take time out and reflect on yourself in a quiet place and time alone. My brother, believe you ‘ll realize that there are certain things you just have to let go at times, and you ‘ll find out that you are happier with yourself, and when you are happy with yourself, gradually this anger syndrome will wear out over time. Before it's too late, anger destroys a lot of things and you can loose a very good woman if you are not careful. I did it and it really helped me, now am a very free man. Wish you the best.
Emeka.
Anger is a tricky thing. It can take control of our minds and mouths and cause damage that can never be repaired. I'm not sure how old you are...but did you grow up in a home with a lot of fighting and/or abuse? Are you on any kind of medication, or consume alcohol in abundance or use drugs recreationally? These can all be contributing factors. It might not be a bad thing to talk to a professional about this behavior. There is nothing wrong with admitting you have a problem and seeking help so that you can lead a happy and productive life.
Annie.
What a mistake of the moment cost me!!! I had been with this man for more than three years and engaged for almost a year now. We live together and work very close to each other. Some months ago, we fought. I was so furious with him. He later left me out of anger and my ex came in and I told him to pick me up after work. Since I was really good friend with him without my man knowing, and we got carried away and now I am just figuring out I am 7 weeks pregnant. The thing is, I and my man have been trying to have a baby for a year now. And nothing, and now he thinks is his! I don’t know what to do! Should I tell him or not? are in the same condition, but I broke it up few months ago. I am hurting and I was hurt, confused and wanted answers, but I knew the break up was for the best. I'm going through a state of withdrawal and depression. So I get it, I'm just going to be honest with you. If it meant anything to you, you're not going to be able to forget him anytime soon. You're going to go through a state of withdrawal and depression. I know because I'm in that state.
All I can tell you is be strong. As hard as it might be, don't contact him. (I know that is telling a lion not to eat the steak in front of him.) LOL in order to start the healing process, this is something you need to do. You need to do this for your family. If you stayed in your marriage that long, then it’s worth saving. Be strong!
Ella
Learn from your affair and implement it in your marriage, try to have the similar conversations with your husband like you had with the other lover, try to make love to him similarly to your lover. Confess your affair so that he starts to work with you too. Go do adventurous things with him, the problem is that your husband has become boring, a confession of your affair will make him jealous and it will make him come out of his comfort zone. I did the same with my hubby and as a result I love him more than I did to my lover.
Stella.
I’m scared I might lose him, because I love him passionately but it was just a mistake of the moment and I regret it. I want to have an abortion if he decides he wants to leave me. I’m going crazy.
Nke
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