Re: Still In Love With My Ex While I’m Married
YOU have a classic case of living in memory lane trying to fix in your head what you think you lost in high school. You kind of sound immature.
You have a wife you promised to love and cherish. Your ex is an ex for a reason and that day and time is over and gone. You have no business going back down memory lane for some high school infatuation.
You were a child and now you are to be a responsible man who loves his wife and promised never to leave her. Marriage is not a game. That was in the past and you should leave it there. You had no business opening up that old childhood feeling that was not even real, but youthful lust. You have no business calling, texting or talking to her for any reason. That is so wrong and you are already cheating by talking to her.
I know you wouldn’t like it if the shoe were on the other foot and your wife was talking on the phone with an old boyfriend as though you don’t exist or matter. Get it together and end this foolish thing. Stop looking over the fence and focus on building your marriage and loving your wife the way she deserves to be loved. You cannot save her, that is all in your mind, let go of the past. She made her choices and you made yours. Both of you married someone else. You need to grow up and understand life and love. Love is not a feeling; it is a choice. You are not in love with this woman; you are in love with an idea in your head that you didn’t close when high school was over. Be a faithful man and stop playing games.
Delete this lady from your present and stop trying to give your past a future. That is why it is called the past; it is behind you. Let it go and don’t ruin your marriage. Just shut it down and get yourself together and be a faithful husband and give your wife all the love you have. It only belongs to her.
I hope you hear me, because you are already setting yourself on fire by talking to this woman. Stop! Stay happily married and keep moving forward. Tell her you are wrong and there can be no more communication between the two of you.
You both are wrong, but you are married, so be faithful and let this lady live her own life, and that does not include you. Living in your head from the past would destroy your wonderful future.
- Hardy OU
Yare one step away from being a deceitful husband. Sorry to be so harsh. But I know what a cheating husband causes the wife to go through. If you loved and missed her that much, you wouldn’t let her go in the first place. If you ‘ realised you made a mistake’ after then, what was really stopping you from going back to her then?
You say your marriage is good and you don’t want to lose your wife, yet, here you are just about to do just that. Either divorce your wife so you can, on the off chance, rekindle old ‘ love.’ Or man up and commit to your wife before you lose everything.
Is your ex really interested in you if she is dating? She has told you she doesn’t want to be responsible for causing your marriage to break up in so many words. So, stop living in the past.
You made a vow to your wife and you have to stick to it; you are looking at the ex through rose- tinted glasses. There was a reason you broke up all those years ago. Does your wife even know you are in contact with an ex? I hope the ex continues to date her man and not to fall into the trap of so many
other women, where they forget their morals. Become selfish, deluded and end up in pain too. Because of you! But not half as much pain and trauma the wife would be in. So, remember that.
You go to the ex behind your wife’s back, then you are ending the marriage. Everything after the day the wife finds out is on you. You then get to see anxiety, depression, sleepless nights and triggers for her, true past at its best. That is a life sentence for both of you.
Now, grow up. Man up and be the husband you are supposed to be. - Anonymous
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