MY WED­DING NIGHT...

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How did you meet your wife?

We met in school, at the higher in­sti­tu­tion; we were course mates at the Univer­sity of Ibadan.

What qual­i­ties would you say at­tracted you to her?

Well, I wouldn’t men­tion any spe­cific qual­ity, but when you see your bet­ter half, the feel­ing would be be­yond look­ing for some ra­tio­nal at­trac­tion. I think it’s some­thing much more spir­i­tual than phys­i­cal.

What are some of the ex­cit­ing mem­o­ries that hap­pened dur­ing the time you were plan­ning for your wed­ding or hav­ing the wed­ding?

One thing I re­mem­ber was that there was a bach­e­lor party a day be­fore the wed­ding. I used a friend’s house. It was the res­i­dence of Akin Lewis, who is also an ac­tor, that we used for the event. On the wed­ding day, we ar­rived at the church late. I re­mem­ber that the Mercedes Benz car that we were sup­posed to use was first used by the driver to go and pick up some other peo­ple; the car was also in the traf­fic, so we had to jump on a lorry to take us to the church.

In what ways do you try to make it up to your wife for the pe­ri­ods you are away from home due to the na­ture of your job?

Well, she is also an artist, so she un­der­stands the na­ture of the job be­cause she has also been in­volved in some sorts of pro­duc­tion and she also goes on some as­sign­ments. When I am done with my as­sign­ments, my duty is to re­turn home to my fam­ily.

What is your ad­vice for young peo­ple hop­ing to get mar­ried?

Any­body go­ing into mar­riage should un­der­stand that it is a life­long com­mit­ment and such peo­ple should be pre­pared and ready for the dif­fer­ent en­coun­ters that they might face in the mar­riage. It is im­por­tant for them to know that there would be dif­fer­ent mo­ments, so when there is a mo­ment where dis­agree­ments come in, all they have to do is make up with each other and forge ahead. The two of them are sup­posed to work to­gether to enjoy their mar­riage. They should learn to know that peo­ple have dif­fer­ent per­son­al­i­ties, up­bring­ing and ori­en­ta­tions, so there­fore, there are mo­ments when you would not un­der­stand each other. What is im­por­tant for young peo­ple to know is that dis­agree­ments are not meant to break up the mar­riage but to make them un­der­stand each other bet­ter and be­come stronger. When such mo­ments come, they should have dis­cus­sions. How does your wife han­dle the at­ten­tion

you get from fe­male fans?

Well, I don’t know, she would be the only one to an­swer that be­cause the feel­ing is hers and not mine. But how would she feel any­way, ex­cept she doesn’t want me to con­tinue with the job? Well, she might not feel too good, but I don’t know what I can do about that. This is what I mean when I talk about hav­ing dis­cus­sions. If she does not feel com­fort­able, she would def­i­nitely let me know and we would talk about it. There should be trust any­way, and since we are on the same page, there is no prob­lem. How was your hon­ey­moon?

We got mar­ried while we were do­ing our Master’s pro­gramme; she was al­ready preg­nant even then. Af­ter the mar­riage, we had our hon­ey­moon in our lit­tle flat where we lived then in Ibadan, we didn’t travel any­where. Maybe if we had the right re­sources then as stu­dents, we could have gone some­where for our hon­ey­moon.

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