MANY FACES OF LOVE
In a romantic comedy, falling in love involves a beautiful heroine and her dashing male lead wooing one another and in less than two hours they fall in love, fight, make up, walk down the aisle and live happily ever after. In real life, it really isn’t as easy as that. It is a crazy, complicated journey. With the use of make up illustrations, Celebrity make up artist Theo
dora Mogo of Doranne beauty takes us down this all too familiar love journey.
Boy meets girl -Butterflies
…is anything better than that fluttery feeling you get when you’re first falling for someone new? You can’t get the person out of your head, but even more than that, you’re thinking about the image you’re projecting as well because you want to win them over.
Romance/ passion
Just like getting high, falling in love allows you to see the world through beautiful rose tinted glasses – only seeing what makes you feel good and ignoring what makes you feel bad. You two feel like you’re in your own little world and try to learn as much as you can about each other
Your drug induced haze forces you to only see where you are similar to your lover, hiding you partner’s flaws and making you say and do anything to get along and please each other.
Roses do have thorns
Just as quickly as it starts, the high wears off and you suddenly realize that roses do have thorns. This is such a painful time for most couples as the illusion that ‘romantic love will last forever’ falls away and is replaced with feelings of disappointment and anger. Instead of seeing your similarities (like you did in the Romance stage), you begin focusing on your differences and your partner’s flaws. Is this really the right relationship for you? This stage is crucial for evaluating if you two can make it past infatuation and really go the distance.
Stability
As simple as that sounds, actually getting to this stage is not an easy ride for most couples. It’s all too easy for one person to quit half way along the journey and end the relationship, because it just too much hard work. Usually two things happen
YOU BREAKUP: You take the nearest exit and break up. Most people who do this are serial daters, never fully committing, always looking for love, but finding disappointment instead. Alternatively, it really wasn’t going to work.
OR YOU SURVIVE: You continue along this journey together, surviving through the pain and frustration of a relationship that is stuck in the past and no longer growing. People who have chosen this option typically think that good relationships involve sacrifice and compromise.
Now if you are on the latter train, it means you have learnt to accept and appreciate each other’s differences. You have also realised that using force will never get you what you want in love. And lastly you have come to a conclusion on who you are , what you have (as a couple), what you want out of a relationship and surrendered to life just the way it is
Commitment
Finally, you become two people who have chosen to be a team moving out into the world. You move beyond the relationship and your relationship becomes a gift to the world. You fully surrender to the reality that you and your partner are human and that your relationship has shortcomings as a result. You have learned to love each other having to like each other and you choose each other consciously. You can honestly say about your partner, “I choose him knowing all I know about him, good and bad.”
Yes, you finally begin to experience a beautiful of balance of love, belonging, fun, power and freedom.