• CAPSULES • COLOURS OF LIFE
“As we go down life’s lonesome highway, seems the hardest thing to do is to find a friend or two, that helping hand, someone who understands “, lyrics from a song that has always resonated. How does anyone traverse this vast expanse called life alone without seeking a soul connection, walahi it’s cold out there but first thing first, you have to lay down your mind.
The truth is that the majority just never find anyone they vibe with. The human being was created to relate but interpersonal relationships have never been as difficult as is in today’s world. Many feel misunderstood and this leads to an inner loneliness that strips them of warmth and despite the throng they still feel alone. Is it nature that has made us so cold within surely this can’t be, because I believe “man” was not created to walk alone or is it nurture the way we were raised, the vacuums created within in an effort to survive given the backdrop of our upbringing or are we lonesome beings seeking succour in the wrong places ......
We yearn for others because solitary runs many mad, we yearn for completion because we believed we are incomplete without others. We need others no doubt but we have to first of all find completion in ourselves before we face the world with what we have on offer.
Our parents traversed with their inner struggles, struggles picked from the streets of life with their scars often hidden from view, their action or lack thereof is usually based on where they have been, what they have seen and sometimes where they have not been and what they have not seen, and based on this they create a lacuna for the next generation.
At the birth of every soul there is innocence, an innocuous heart until life starts the programming, the pain of many seeking affirmation and receiving none is often palpable walking through the garden of growth, we wrestle giants and step on hidden land mines and implode without recourse to anything. It’s heart wrenching to watch what we do to ourselves, the cycle of pain fast forms a circle of life.
Yes, life is tough and nobody gets it on a good day not the reason for it, not the seasons as they come, not the purpose of it all but we are here flying free. I was told once by a wise man that there is a Balm in Gilead and that access is for all.
The truly wise learn to roll with the punches despite the road blocks, they try to find the interstices, rather than spend time celebrating problem after problem they continually seek solutions.
People need love, people need hope, as the world is complex be it a friend, a soul mate, a kindred spirit, someone who gets you “God is there for people who believe but my experience of him has shown me that he uses people to reach his own, so rather than castigate a hurting heart, why don’t we offer our shoulders and carry them because at some point someone else carried us too.
We were created by a loving God to come and show forth his love, the unconditional love that gives without expecting anything in return but sadly many only look out for numero uno.
Do we need a catharsis to start afresh or can we press reset from where we are, toxic and burdened, can we truly reset without purging? Truth be told, as long as life offers you breath you can always begin again. The first thing to do is to admit to yourself that you got it wrong in the first place and then press the reset button.
We all need to start the journey of healing, we need to heal from all that we are carrying based on a cruel yesterday. We must fight for posterity by repairing the here and now. We must begin to feel again, learn to dance in the rain.
“When the road gets dark and we can no longer see our way through” ..... have a little faith and it will push you closer to the light. Reach for the light and be one.