“Am I Enough? Or I Am Enough!

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“I am enough,” a three-word sentence that carries exceptiona­l weight. For some people, it’s the default to know their worth. But for others, not quite. So what is the meaning of “I am enough”? Why is it so important, and how do you build a strong sense of worthiness in our daily lives?

As an affirmatio­n, knowing the meaning of “I am enough” creates a concrete picture in your mind. It tells your brain how to act and react in different situations and when to shut down your inner doubting voice. If you struggle to own your enoughness, you may first need to know what the phrase means to internaliz­e it better.

“I am enough” means to accept your flaws whole-heartedly

Without self-acceptance, you will always be struggling with your identity. But when you know you are enough, you can finally be at peace with your flaws, imperfecti­ons, and mistakes.

When you know you are enough, you stop attaching your worth to your body shape, appearance, or bank account number. Instead, what you see are the qualities you have, your talent, and your potential. You believe you are loved even when you are not perfect, and no one else is. You don’t need to be perfect to be loved or accepted.

So if you still doubt your enoughness, try asking yourself, “where do I shine?” And when you have the answer, do everything in your power to let it shine brighter.

How do I know I don’t have feelings of enoughness?

We don’t know what we don’t know. For example, you may think you are confident until someone criticizes you. You may feel like you know your worth until a terrible relationsh­ip makes you doubt your value.

It’s always better to be prepared and fix those limiting beliefs before they come to affect your life. So here are the signs that you don’t think you are enough and may have some inner work to do. ● You question your worth in the presence of negative comments. ● You desperatel­y try to change your body and your appearance. ● Sometimes, you avoid opportunit­ies or people just because you think they are too good for you.

● You believe you can only be truly happy

when you are slim/wealthy/married. ● In your mind, everything is fixed. And you

don’t think you can be better than you are now.

● You have an urgency to prove yourself to

others. ● Sometimes, you sacrifice your time or mental well-being for other people. ● You assume that people only approach or play nice to take advantage of you.

So, how do you own your enoughness? What can you do if you are not embracing your worth now?

Do what makes you — not other people — happy.

Feeling like you’re not enough can sometimes lead you to take on certain friends, hobbies, projects or jobs that you think will make you look good in other people’s estimation.

“When was the last time you did something not because it’s going to show up on your resume, not because it meets that condition of worth you’re wrestling with, but just because you enjoyed it?” . When you meet new people, go beyond your job, title or school.

It’s almost impossible to be out — Lagos especially — without hearing these five words “so what do you do?” If we’d like to remove the judgment associated with the question, we can also change how we respond to it. How do you respond to this? Even I don’t know.

Recognize the value you have — period!

Believing you’re enough does not mean that you should lower the bar for what you’d like to accomplish in life.

Recognizin­g our inherent self-worth does not mean we’ll be full of self-importance. An inflated sense of self-esteem sounds like ‘I can do it, I’m the best, whether or not that’s true. Inherent value, however, sounds more like ‘This is important to me. I will do my best, but this doesn’t define me.’

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