Learn to be the Best Husband
It is believed that as long as we ignore the family, the nation at large will not be whole. As much as the responsibility lies more on the women to bring up the family in the proper way and at the long run build a healthy society, a good and loving husband is required to support the woman in playing out her role as a mother and wife.
However, it has been noticed that there are a whole lot of young male adults from dysfunctional homes. For this reason the Practical Christian Living Initiative (PCLI), a faith-based organisation that deals with marriage and family life, is putting together a seminar tagged, “A Man Worthy of Respect”. The seminar billed to hold on June 27 at the Oriental Hotel, Victoria Island by 10am, the Founder, PCLI, Mrs. Tinu Agbabiaka said is targeted at young adult, with the intention to groom young male adults into responsible husbands and fathers.
“The woman was made differently from the man and she was made with special gifts. We are gifted as women but there are limitations to what a man can do. There are lots of roles for a woman to play but then it is a two-way thing, which is the reason we are coming up with the seminar with the purpose to raise godly husbands and fathers because there are very few right now. You can’t give what you do not have. Who is teaching them? Who are their role models? Who are they going to emulate? Those are the questions. There are so many bad examples that even the good ones are almost embarrassed to say enough! We have to teach our men how to be proper husbands and how to treat a woman. That is why we are holding the morning seminar.“
Explaining why the seminar is tagged, “A Man Worthy of Respect”, she said, “The man creates respect from the woman while the woman wants the man love. And the man needs to be worthy of that resect and a man who does the proper things will earn his respect so easily by his woman. If you love a woman, treat her well and kindly, you will earn her respect”, she said
Agbabiaka whom God has used to heal a lot of marriages - to mode, build, and amend said, “Practical Christian Living Initiative was presented on a platform as an NGO but it is focused on relationships and it is not just so much of couples because we when we are talking married couples, before they got married, it started out as singles and then it is what you have been nurtured as in your home as a family that you play out when you get married and have your own home. For example, the values I give my daughter are what she will eventually play out when she gets married.”
She said further that the essence of PCLI is to educate and teach, adding, “Our ministry is not about the women are the problem or the men are the problem, because it takes two to tangle. And because I am also a certified counselor, I do a lot of going back into backgrounds because there is always a foundational reason for every situation in a relationship. What we do is hard because by the time someone going through a bad relationship cries out, it means it had really gone deep. Because it is private, the first instinct is for you to try and shield it and manage it for as long as you can so that the society will not blame you.”
Speaking further she said, “By the grace of God, I will be 20 years in marriage next year and by the special grace of God we have been able to manage our affairs and it is not as if we have not had our challenges but we have been able to manage our relationship in such a way that it is inspiring. I try as much as possible to live what I preach to others and PCLI is eight this year.”
The event that follows in the evening on the same day is tagged, “For the Love of Money”, and it is a couple’s dinner event that will discuss money matters in home.
“Financial strength does not make a home; otherwise all rich people will have happy homes”, Agbabiaka said, adding, “Research has shown money related issues as the most divisive issue between the married couple. The different situations range from there being only one income earner, or lack of transparency, no savings culture, a "spendthrift" partner, a "saver" partner, financial obligation, debt, unavailability of funds, money without love & attention, obligations to extended rather than immediate family, selfishness, financial recklessness, joint or individual account, financial irresponsibility etc. The list is endless. If these issues are not properly addressed, it does end in divorce where the fight for who gets what ( money) continues.” She therefore said the event would afford opportunity where such issues would address practical godly solutions.