Masturbation and Your Manners
Iam a firm believer that masturbation has an effect on our ‘self control muscles’ and hence our manners. The statistics may shock us as at least 80 per cent of both men and women have masturbated at one point or the other. The preponderance of masturbation has led to many motions for and against it in recent times. However, I’ll like to explain my conviction on masturbations impact on self control.
Masturbation leads to a release of and increase dopamine in the brain. Now dopamine is the brain’s reward and pleasure centre. Over activating this reward centre leads to loss of self control, craving and an increased tolerance of sugar. Which all point to one phenomenon – addiction.
Masturbation works like sugar as sugar also has a similar effect on dopamine levels in the body as masturbation. Excess intake of sugar leads to sustained increase of dopamine levels which is why people eventually get addicted to sugary foods. Take the United States for example which has one of highest rates of sugar consumption in the world, it also has the highest number of obese people in the world (surprisingly, excess sugar is the reason for excess weight gain and not fat). Now obesity is a function of a lack of self control which all boils down to high dopamine levels in the body as a result of excess sugar. Intake of alcohol, nicotine and heroine for example send dopamine into overdrive which explains why it is common to fine people addicted to this substances. My anti-masturbation position is premised on the fact that as a dopamine enhancer it leads to decrease in self control. This may also account for why homosexual masturbate more than heterosexuals. I have heard of people so addicted to masturbation that they would excuse their selves during board meetings to “jerk off”.
I have had many chances to masturbate as a testosterone pumping young virile black man. However in every instance where I resisted the urge, I found out that I was able to ascend to higher levels of calm, composure, awareness, concentration and insight. Corroborating this position is a hypothesis that the excess sexual energy we don’t waste by not masturbating builds up into the lower parts of our bellies which are the body’s energy centres for confidence and assertiveness. This position also states that when you feel nervous you feel butterflies in your tummy conserving sexual energy drowns out those butterflies.
When people lose weight they testify to the salubrious effects that follow thereafter. When people exercise they share anecdotes of the positive changes noticed afterwards. When people meditate they rhapsodize on its power to affect anxiety, stress and increase concentration. In the same vein masturbation is an exercise that can eventually evolve into a habit and if not controlled eventually into an addiction. If you are convinced to masturbate, I encourage you to look out for its after effects if they are positive you might then as well just be on the right track but if they turn out negative, you may consider a paradigm shift. If you would like to speak with me personally on this issue on which I have exchanged thoughts with people in the past, I would obligingly love to listen to you. I sincerely wish us all the best in taking the best decisions in living the best possible lives that we can.
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