The Obasanjo/Adebutu Wedding and Disasters Foretold

Nothing can be as sad as when you get married without your mother’s consent. That was what just happened at this wedding. The mother of the groom kicked seriously against this wedding, even trying to get a court injunction and when that failed, she was quoted to have said that there would be a plane crash and people would die if the wedding went ahead. Well, I really feel for her and would not laugh away her sorrow. I also had a personal experience. My own mother too did not support my wedding. She did not understand why I would leave all the beautiful Ibibio virgins to go and marry this ‘short Yoruba girl’. All attempts at explaining to my mum that this was my choice fell on deaf ears. She did not know she could get a court injunction but she did the closest thing which was to go get a prophet who promptly prophesied that I will die a day after my wedding. Well, the marriage is now 17 years with lovely kids and my mother is now my wife’s best friend. So my dear mummy, whatever were your misgivings about that wedding, I hope you will learn to accept the reality that it is really not your decision and you didn’t need to throw all that tantrum. As a mother, you will give your advice and your child would use it as a guide in making his choice and when that is done, it behoves you to support his decision, while working with him to navigate the thorn that is marriage. I hope you are calm now madam, and for your information, I had advised my partner who was due for Abuja on the day of your son’s wedding to take night bus, we did not want to take chances. Anyway, nothing happened and we saw very beautiful pictures. I hope you have wished them a happy married life otherwise, you may miss your grandchildren’s naming ceremonies as they would not invite you. Meddlesome mothers, a lesson for you.