My Greatest Regret in Life was Losing My Mother


have had in life, the saddest moment in my life till this day.

Could that be the reason you married early?

Of course, marriage was my first project in life and it was my mother who was behind everything. As an only son, you don’t know tomorrow, he may die or I may die also without leaving any legacy like a child or children, so that was the first project I faced and today it is paying me.

How did you meet your wife? I met my wife when she was in primary school; that was when this idea of marrying came to me through my mother and we monitored her. My mother was monitoring and mentoring her because my mother had a lot of love for my wife, mentored her from primary to secondary school, from where we started.

Do we say your mother recommende­d her to you?

Not that my mother recommende­d her to me; I have my eyes to see what I want but my mother was the backbone who encouraged me. The mistake you make is to go and marry somebody your mother does not like. Because of the love I had for my mother when I knew my mother was interested in my wife, the thing pushed me on.

What were the qualities that attracted you to your wife?

She is beautiful, elegant, tall, intelligen­t, very hard working and she is a home-bred woman, very caring with a high sense of humility with the best home training.

If you were to change any aspect of your life what would that be?

I think I am satisfied with myself. God has been merciful, tremendous­ly merciful to me, so I won’t say I want to change my life. I will not because God has piloted my life, led me to areas that I couldn’t have reached; so I am happy with myself and with God. There is no aspect of my life I will say let me change.

While growing up, what did you aspire to be in life, a governor?

No no no, there was no time I wanted to be governor; it never crossed my mind. I wanted to go to school, be a graduate; when I graduate, depending on the field of study, you come out and look for a job as patterned by my father because my father had this early acquaintan­ce with oyibo people, these DOs (district officers), so he was in love with the job of being a district officer, that is what he said I will be and the thing stuck on my mind. I said to be a district officer I had to go to the university; that was what I pursued and when I came out of the university that was the field I pursued. I entered the administra­tive cadre of the civil service that is from where you become a DO. That time in the service, they send you to the local government where you start working as DO. That was what I had in my mind, I pursued and got it because I reached the climax which was the permanent secretary but God said no, I am not yet done with you, you had to advance. I am grateful to God, there is no aspect of my life that I will say I could have been this, how I wish I was this; no, I am satisfied with myself.

What drives your compassion for the less privileged?

Yes because it is the right thing to do. When I was growing up, I was privileged to have certain things at my disposal and also, I was privileged to see how the unprivileg­ed people were treated and what they passed through. In the university, there was somebody I know who bathed with OMO, can’t buy Lux or any other toilet soap, he will put OMO in water and bath with it. If you have the opportunit­y to help such a person won’t you help? That is the passion I have for all these people that are less privileged because I know they don’t have the opportunit­y I have or have had, so how do you help them? It is to transfer some of your opportunit­ies to them so that they can grow to your stage or to a certain stage.

What do you like in people? It is natural. There are people who are charming, naturally have likeable qualities, you don’t run away from them. If I see you and that admiration will come. But there are people you see and you start detesting them, they have not done anything to you but when you

What puts you off in people? What puts me off in people are the opposite of what I have said, people who are arrogant for no just cause, notice me or I die; people who don’t have any regard for their fellow human beings.

Politician­s are known to keep mistresses, has it ever crossed your mind to keep one?

What am I doing with a mistress? I have a wife in the house that satisfies me in all aspects, so why should I keep a mistress? That one is an additional burden on your side, to go and start keeping a mistress and doing all these hanky panky things; something that you will be doing, when you see somebody, you will be hiding, such things are not good.

So as a chief and successful man, it has never crossed your mind to have a second wife?

What for? What do I need a second wife for? My wife has produced children for me; responsibl­e children, male and female which is the essence of marriage so what else do I need in another woman?

How do you resist overtures from the opposite sex because it is highly probable some are coming for you?

You will be direct with them, there is no point painting words. When they come to you, you will say ‘ah no no, please carry your trouble and go.’ That is what happens, there are some girls who are desperate, they will like you, say they like you and they will come with their entire arsenal, but to show that you are a man is to resist them. When they try once, twice and they don’t succeed they will go away.

What is your most valuable life possession?

It is my life, not material things

Do you have special labels you put on in terms of fashion?

No, I don’t. In fact, my wife and my children buy things for me when they travel. They are the ones that know what is trending, they buy for me and I use but I don’t go to the market and say give me Giorgio Armani, Givenchy or that, they buy when they see my stock is depleting, they restock it.

If you were to be isolated in an island, what three items will you go with?

Food, I have to go with food to eat; toiletries to keep myself clean and wears.

Many of your admirers don’t know that you love soccer a lot. What is your best Premier League team?

If I tell you my best team, you will laugh. Tottenham Hotspur is my best team. Some will say Arsenal, some will say Manchester United. Tottenham Hotspur is the one I like because I like how they play and I like the characters that are there. Another reason is because when my daughter went overseas, she was living in that town where this football club is. So, I was going there to look at them and they won my admiration.

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