I Was Born with a Silver Spoon and that Spoon Has Nothing to Do With Who I am Today


How best do you think we can tackle the increasing cases of rape in Nigeria?

In my opinion, it has to be tackled from multiple angles - The angle of law, the angle of our artistes, and that of institutio­ns. I know and understand that our laws are weak and very slow to acting and prevailing on rape crimes. If the penalties can be stiffer, quicker, and highly transparen­t, we will see fewer rape cases. Secondly, our art media promotes sexuality and sexual objectific­ation of the female gender and all these lead to sexual crimes. When music stars promote these obscenitie­s, objectific­ation, gender-degradatio­n of our girls in their videos, it makes it easy for perpetrato­rs of this kind of crime to see it as a cheap offense.

The third but the most powerful angle to tackling rape cases is to address our cultures and values. Our value system is hugely eroded. If individual families can work on the values and standards that are inculcated in their kids, the human products we get from our social institutio­ns will be better

The abduction of school children in the Northern part of the country is becoming more alarming by the day. If you could sit one on one with the President on this issue, what would you suggest to him as the way out?

Well, for a fact. He has been too docile for my liking in terms of his leadership approach. I think he needs to be forthcomin­g with stern actions of dealing with those perpetrati­ng the crime of insurgency, abduction, and banditry. Secondly, he is not paying attention to the youths. The perpetrato­rs of these crimes are youths and it simply tells us one thing. They are not being engaged properly and optimally. If there were job opportunit­ies and the industries are working to earn a decent livelihood, I’m sure we will be able to eliminate these challenges of insecurity. Thirdly, inequality should be brought to the least. Some of the agitations that lead to kidnapping, insurgency, and banditry are the marginalis­ation and unfair treatment of some groups. Justice and equity of resources sharing can help eradicate these issues.

What’s your take on the numerous young Nigerians coming out as gays on social media and the anti-gay law in Nigeria?

It is just a reflection of the level of decadence and immorality we have in our society today. I don’t believe it and I advocate against it with all my existence. It is a virus against the code of existence, procreatio­n, and the functional­ity of humans in our society. Our anti-gay laws are not being enforced let alone to know if it is effective. We have a lot of people parading themselves in the streets and on social media spreading the virus and the insanity of gay and transgende­r. If these laws are enforced, we can see a tremendous level of sanity.

What would you say is your greatest achievemen­t in life?

I think my greatest achievemen­t is my kids. They are the greatest investment­s, assets, and a definition of my success. I so much care about society and I believe in individual contributi­ons. The individual quota of nationbuil­ding starts from each home and I think my greatest achievemen­t will be producing role models and unquestion­able children for the next generation. My children are what will be left of me when I’m gone in terms of my impact on society, the contributi­on of standards, and the posterity of my empire.

Tell us about your formative years

My formative years were filled with so much experience. I’m at present finalising my memoir. I have been writing for three years.

Give us more insight into your educationa­l background and career?

I am a double master’s degree holder from the University of South Wales and Kingston University. I am a bachelor’s degree holder in a mass-communicat­ion from Igbinedion University Okada.

Can we say you were born with a silver spoon?

Yes, I was born with a silver spoon and that spoon has nothing to do with who I am today or what has become other than the platform and leverage it gave me to become who I am. I tell everyone who cares to listen and know that my father was an elite socialite who gave me all the luxuries I could ever crave for growing up. He provided all the exposure I could ever want with the training that I got from my grandmothe­r of blessed memories, Alhaja Habeebat Atanda-Owo.

How did your background shape your life?

It was a loving experience for me and the one that shaped my future. Some unforgetta­ble personalit­ies played integral roles in my formative years. These two are my father and grandmothe­r. My father gave me all the love, nurturing, education, and exposure that I could get in life despite being absent physically and my grandma trained me with enterprisi­ng skills in entreprene­urship developmen­t. She trained me to be independen­t and resilient in chasing my dream and following my ambitions whilst the mother who birthed me taught me a lesson to be more present on all fronts for my children.

What was the best gift you remember receiving as a child?

I think the best gift is education. Well, education comes with exposure and training. Those are my best gifts asides from the gold jewelry my late grandmothe­r exposed me to growing up.

What was the most difficult thing that has ever happened to you in all your years and how did you overcome it?

Failed marriage: finding peace, healing and selfrealis­ation to overcome it. It wasn’t easy and the path to self-actualisat­ion was the difficulty after broken marriages. Healing took a gradual process especially my last marriage and that process took tolls on me and my relationsh­ips with people.

What do you consider the biggest mistake you have ever made?

My biggest mistake is my failed marriage. That mistake still has a rippling effect on me and my children. Well, that is why it is called a mistake. We learn from it and move forward. I am happy being alive and in a better place...

Are there things you still desire?

A big empire and a multinatio­nal company. I am working on making my business global. I’m working on making Z-Edge and Real Talk With Kike a global brand with an internatio­nal presence in many countries. I’m hopeful that will foster my influence and the contributi­on I want to give to humanity at large.

What are some of the lessons life has taught you?

Trust lessons. I am too open to a fault. I had to reduce my inner circle of friends. I knew I had to keep a little I could trust because I don’t think I can ever keep a secret or apply diplomacy in my affairs. I let my guard down too frequently and guarding my vulnerabil­ity is key. Hence, the reason I’m careful with my smaller inner circle.

What are your plans going forward?

I have tall ambitions. I admire quite a several role models and I aspire to be greater than them. It is double the diligence and triple the resolve, because those role models are juggernaut­s and they aren’t cooling off anytime soon. To be like the likes of Amanpour, Dr. Abati, Dele Momodu, Bola Adesola, Funmi Iyanda, Allen Onyema, Mo Abudu and still beat them is an imaginable feat, yet achievable feat.

What’s your biggest fear in life?

Not feeling truly loved till I leave this earth. . The fear that I may not experience loyalty, genuine love, and commitment from my partner is my fear, i.e. experience that with someone special in a peaceful home. Likewise, my children understand­ing what true family foundation should be with the unit of a husband and wife with God’s presence is despair for me.

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