‘My mum once wanted to be a sol­dier’

In Au­gust, last year, we in­ter­viewed the late daugh­ter, Maryam Bukar Has­san, on her mother. Here, we present it again in mem­ory of the late star. Maryam Bukar Has­san, 20, is a poet and an In­for­ma­tion Tech­nol­ogy grad­u­ate from Rad­ford Univer­sity, and the on

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Daily Trust: What’s the re­la­tion­ship be­tween you and your mum like?

I’d say it is like a best friend type of re­la­tion­ship. Be­ing the only daugh­ter she has, and los­ing 4 chil­dren be­fore me, I think that ac­tu­ally helped build the kind of close re­la­tion­ship we have, plus the fact that she doesn’t keep many friends.

DT: What trait of hers would you say you ad­mire the most?

The first thing that comes to mind is her self­less­ness. I know that’s ba­si­cally the default set­ting of moth­ers, but my mum’s is on an en­tirely dif­fer­ent level. She’s the kind of per­son that could have 10 op­por­tu­ni­ties and if I hap­pen to come to show in­ter­est in all the 10, she would give them up for me. She’s also pa­tient. And she’s a great dancer, too.

DT: What kind of mother is she, strict or re­laxed?

I’d say she’s a com­bi­na­tion of both, be­cause my mum at a point can snap to be a dis­ci­plinar­ian, but at the same time she’s a re­laxed mother. The next day she’s a funny per­son, and the next she’s strict. So her emo­tions are fluid, but as her daugh­ter I know how to flip all that and get what I want.

DT: How has your mother’s fame played a role in your life?

It’s got its neg­a­tive and pos­i­tive sides. The neg­a­tive as­pect is that just as you have peo­ple who love you, you have peo­ple that don’t like you, too. At first that part got to me, but as I grew up, I re­al­ized that what­ever line of work your mother is in to, she re­mains your mother. So in­stead of me look­ing at the down­side, I look at the upside and how I could use that pos­i­tively. The fact that now I’m into Is­lamic stuff, it’s kind of an ad­di­tional hon­our to my mother who’s an ac­tress. You know, hav­ing a daugh­ter with such an in­ter­est. So I take pride in that, and the fact that I was raised by a sin­gle mother, so Al­ham­dulil­lah.

DT: Have you ever felt like fol­low­ing in your mother’s foot­steps?

Yes. I was the pres­i­dent of the Drama and Cul­ture Club in my sec­ondary school. Then, if you’re fa­mil­iar with the movie ‘Dry’ by Stephanie Ok­ereke, I au­di­tioned for it and I was sup­posed to play a role, but due to some un­favourable cir­cum­stances that could have caused un­nec­es­sary drama, I de­cided not to. But I love what my mum does, and I know peo­ple per­ceive me as an Is­lamic scholar which I tell peo­ple that I’m not even a stu­dent of knowl­edge. I love act­ing, and right now I am try­ing to pro­mote Is­lam through that, with some cer­tain pro­grammes I do.

DT: Can you re­mem­ber a piece of ad­vice that she has given you which has stuck with you till today?

Be self­less, and love peo­ple. She would al­ways tell me to love peo­ple and they will for­give you and give you the op­por­tu­nity to grow. I am the kind of per­son who makes a

lot of mis­takes, but I think be­cause of the love I show peo­ple, it has de­creased the back­lash some­what. DT: What’s her favourite food?

She loves pounded yam and egusi soup. I jok­ingly call her ‘Igbo Lady’ be­cause of that (laugh­ter).

DT: What does she en­joy watch­ing on TV, and how does she un­wind? Sur­pris­ingly, she doesn’t watch much TV. Right now she’s try­ing to de­velop the habit of read­ing. She en­joys read­ing Is­lamic books. My mum has this se­cret dream of be­com­ing an Is­lamic scholar so we’re work­ing to­wards that. How­ever when I’m watch­ing Disney car­toons, she joins me. DT: If your mum wasn’t an ac­tress, what else do you think she would have ex­celled at? At a point in her life, she wanted to be a sol­dier. She ac­tu­ally ap­plied for Short Ser­vice in the army. It’s hard to be­lieve, I know, but she’s ac­tu­ally very fear­less. DT: What unique as­pect of your mum are most peo­ple not aware of? Peo­ple just see her as an ac­tress. Some­time I hear peo­ple in­sult my mum and say stupid things while I’m sit­ting there not know­ing that I’m her daugh­ter. Some­times, I’d even join in and when they’re done, I leave, and some­how later on they find out. What peo­ple don’t know about my mum is that she is a mother, too. They just use what they see on the screen to judge her, but my mum is be­yond an ac­tress. She is a beau­ti­ful per­son, in­side and out. I think that hap­pens when peo­ple are try­ing to fit you into a stereo­type to box you. DT: What’s the best part of hav­ing a celeb mum? You get a lot of favours and recog­ni­tion. Some­times when I go to some places, I have to say that I’m Hauwa Maina’s daugh­ter. The funny thing is when my mum went some­where the other day, she had to in­tro­duce her­self as Maryam Bukar’s mother, the poet’s mother, and it opened a door for her. So I think right

The last time [Kan­ny­wood ac­tress] Hadiza Gabon asked me that ques­tion, we all ended up cry­ing. I’m re­ally go­ing to miss my mum, miss look­ing at her at night while she’s sleep­ing, ask­ing her if she has eaten, telling me her prob­lems and me be­ing a friend to her

now the pop­u­lar­ity goes both ways for us (laugh­ter).

DT: You just got mar­ried yes­ter­day (Fri­day). Con­sid­er­ing how close you are to each other, how much will you miss your mum?

The last time [Kan­ny­wood ac­tress] Hadiza Gabon asked me that ques­tion, we all ended up cry­ing. I’m re­ally go­ing to miss my mum, miss look­ing at her at night while she’s sleep­ing, ask­ing her if she has eaten, telling me her prob­lems and me be­ing a friend to her.

I’m go­ing to miss her so much. But I think at the same time I might not. My hus­band is a re­ally lov­ing per­son, and I think he would even help care for her more, so she will get dou­ble the love she’s used to.

Maryam with mum, late Hauwa Maina

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