Founders of Brain Se­crets, Mus­cat res­i­dents Dishita Muliya and Bi­nal Kan­abar are try­ing to make a dif­fer­ence in ev­ery in­di­vid­ual’s life that they meet. They will take turns to write.

Muscat Daily - - NATION - Dishita Muliya

Same sapling, same nourishmen­t, same soil, same year of sow­ing, same ecol­ogy, same weather con­di­tions, same view... . But then why is it that tree on the right bears more red berries than the one on the left or vice versa?

Don’t we get to see such sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tions in schools and at home...if we just re­place the trees with stu­dents, and then let’s say same school, same teachers, same class, same fees, same books, same lec­tures and ex­actly same ex­am­i­na­tions. Now let’s re­place the red berries with marks or per­for­mance. As we all know the beauty of Mother Na­ture - some may be good, some may be bet­ter while some may need a lit­tle more time than the rest to grow.

Ev­ery par­ent is aim­ing for their child’s suc­cess, be at school, game or life. But I ask the par­ents to sit back, with a pen and pa­per, ask them­selves these ques­tions

Are we as par­ents aware of our child’s real strengths and po­ten­tials?

What are they re­ally pas­sion­ate about? Are we pres­suris­ing them to get into an

ed­u­ca­tional field of our choice over theirs? What is that he/she en­joys af­ter school –

sports, mu­sic, lan­guage or art? How does my child study? Is that the best

prac­tice for him/her? Do we lis­ten to our child enough? Do we par­ents, fol­low what we preach? If you have more than one child – are you un­know­ingly set­ting bench­marks for them based on how the other is do­ing?

Will I be open to ac­cept­ing my child if he/she de­cides to pur­sue an un­con­ven­tional ca­reer path?

Is there a need for my child to see a ca­reer coun­sel­lor be­fore he/she makes a life­time de­ci­sion?

These ques­tions may seem ex­tremely gen­eral at a sur­face level but try to write an­swers to these and you’ll be amazed to un


der­stand that merely know­ing your child’s favourite food, books, team, TV shows and best friend isn’t enough to help them ex­cel.

It’s al­right if your child doesn’t ace his/her maths or his­tory class; per­haps if you have a look at their artis­tic or mu­sic skills, you may wit­ness im­mense hap­pi­ness and ex­cite­ment in them while they are closely as­so­ci­ated with their in­born tal­ents.

Let us con­sciously stop mak­ing any kind of com­par­isons be­tween sib­lings, friends, class­mates or even some­one walk­ing on the street.

Don’t make it a rat race for them, I’m sure none of us want to be on it ei­ther as adults. Let your child re­main unique in their own way and help them find out what are they truly gifted with and let them bloom like never be­fore be­cause there is a ge­nius in all of us!

Please re­mem­ber, amongst all the stu­dents ap­pear­ing for the ex­ams, there is a mu­si­cian whose chem­istry marks wouldn’t mat­ter.

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