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Cosmopolitan (Philippines) - - Contents -

Q: What is the dif­fer­ence be­tween Men and Women at Work?

Leena Nair (LN): All men are dif­fer­ent, and all women are dif­fer­ent. If I were to gen­er­al­ize, one of the dif­fer­ences is the abil­ity to ex­press am­bi­tion—much eas­ier for a man, harder for a woman. When a woman is pre­sent­ing, she will say “we” and take less credit for her­self. When a man comes in to present, he will say “I.” And def­i­nitely with money and re­wards, the men ne­go­ti­ate far bet­ter than the women!

Lynette Or­tiz (LO): I don’t know if it’s been in­grained in us that we need to be liked, and that to be liked, we have to down­play am­bi­tion lest we be per­ceived as ra­pa­cious, too hun­gry—qual­i­ties that are ad­mired in a man.

Geral­dine Ro­man (GR): I think women are ed­u­cated to be unas­sum­ing, and that’s sup­posed to be a pos­i­tive trait, so we tend to bring it to the cor­po­rate world and the world of pol­i­tics.

Q: how do you deal With Unequal ex­pec­ta­tions in the Work­place?

LO: You re­ally need to put in the hours and the hard work to gain ex­per­tise. And the fact of the mat­ter is, you build your cred­i­bil­ity and your cache with your net­works and your re­la­tion­ships. It adds to your abil­ity to do a bet­ter job.

GR: I didn’t ex­pect that my win would get so much at­ten­tion, so the ex­pec­ta­tions were higher. I took it upon my­self to carry the flag of the LGBT com­mu­nity, so I had to be pre­pared for any­thing.

Q: how does be­ing emo­tional af­fect cor­po­rate suc­cess?

LN: Emo­tion is a good thing. No man or woman should leave their feel­ings at home, but you have to show your emo­tions with skill. Use your pas­sion and anger to make a point.

LO: In bank­ing, you have to be solid [and un­emo­tional]. In front of my team, I’m cool and calm and col­lected. But it’s all right to show vul­ner­a­bil­ity; now that I’m older, I’ve come to re­al­ize that.

GR: In pol­i­tics, you’re a pub­lic fig­ure, and if you’re too sen­si­tive, you will have a dif­fi­cult time. Be as­sertive and be elo­quent. With­out mean­ing to stereo­type, women have the gift of ex­pres­sion.

Q: What should Women do to break the bar­rier of shame and climb the cor­po­rate lad­der?

LN: Think hard about what your dreams are and what your pur­pose is, and try to get con­text. Once you un­der­stand your strengths and your pur­pose, it be­comes eas­ier be­cause you can build am­bi­tions based on those things. Def­i­nitely speak to a men­tor if you aren’t com­fort­able putting it out there. It takes a lot of prac­tice. And you have to tell your­self that it’s all right if you don’t ful­fill a dream you put out there—at least you tried.

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