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Pre­pare her mind, body, and maybe even soul

The cur­rent ways of scor­ing are so dif­fer­ent from the

panlili­gaw of the past gen­er­a­tions. The emer­gence of dat­ing web­sites and apps like Tin­der made sure of that. While some old­school tricks still work, the mod­ern man is faced with the dilemma of not know­ing when to make the next move due to the even more blurred lines be­tween yes and no. Here’s a guide that will clear up any­thing that's

mal­abo and help you main­tain your sta­tus as a gen­tle­man.

KNIGHT IN SHIN­ING ARMOR

Be a to­tal gen­tle­man when you’re around her. Ac­cord­ing to li­censed psy­chol­o­gist and sex blog­ger/ther­a­pist from The Sexy Mind Rica Cruz, you should stand right be­hind her when you’re walk­ing. This is so she feels like you can pro­tect her. Open­ing doors for her will also help her open up to you, if you know what we mean. Wink!

OPEN MINDED KA BA?

A good con­ver­sa­tion­al­ist pays at­ten­tion to the com­pany he keeps. Re­la­tion­ship coach Aileen San­tos says you should main­tain eye con­tact and turn your body to­ward her when she’s speak­ing. So, throw all the torpe moves and tito pickup lines out the win­dow and talk about some­thing else other than the weather.

GET TURNT

“Al­ways of­fer to buy her a drink,” said Cruz. A lit­tle liq­uid en­cour­age­ment al­ways loosens the lips and eases the first-date jit­ters. But don’t get her too drunk, either. Re­mem­ber: She al­ways has to be clear­headed above all else. #Con­sen­tis­cool

FROM PG TO R-13

Step up your landi game by be­ing more touchy feely. Cruz rec­om­mends you feed her some of your dessert and lightly touch her arms and hands when you two are deep in con­ver­sa­tion. When you’re ready to leave, place your hand on her hip when you’re walk­ing to the car. But be­fore you pro­ceed, make sure she’s com­fort­able with what­ever you are do­ing to her.

KISS, KISS BANG, BANG

Once you've charmed her with your funny quips and you can safely say that she's brought her guard down, try to give her a kiss that de­serves Hol­ly­wood recog­ni­tion. Dan Ba­con, a sex and re­la­tion­ship ex­pert and founder of the dat­ing help site the­mod­ern­man.com, says that women won't sleep with a man whom they haven't kissed yet, so up your chances by plant­ing one on her, stat. In­crease your chem­istry by syn­chro­niz­ing your move­ments with hers. San­tos says mod­ern women are more open to the idea of phys­i­cal in­ti­macy with a stranger com­pared to the shy Maria Clara’s of yesteryears.

SHE COMES FIRST

Since you're a gen­tle­man, ask her what she wants. Cruz en­cour­ages you to find her sweet spot—it can be on the base of her neck, the small of her back—and smother her with kisses. Stroke her body in places you think she will ap­pre­ci­ate. And for the love of God, find her clit and treat it gen­tly.

In this fast-paced world of mod­ern dat­ing, seal­ing the deal on the first try isn’t out of the ques­tion —as long as you know which but­tons to push and which ones to undo

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