Prepare her mind, body, and maybe even soul
The current ways of scoring are so different from the
panliligaw of the past generations. The emergence of dating websites and apps like Tinder made sure of that. While some oldschool tricks still work, the modern man is faced with the dilemma of not knowing when to make the next move due to the even more blurred lines between yes and no. Here’s a guide that will clear up anything that's
malabo and help you maintain your status as a gentleman.
KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR
Be a total gentleman when you’re around her. According to licensed psychologist and sex blogger/therapist from The Sexy Mind Rica Cruz, you should stand right behind her when you’re walking. This is so she feels like you can protect her. Opening doors for her will also help her open up to you, if you know what we mean. Wink!
OPEN MINDED KA BA?
A good conversationalist pays attention to the company he keeps. Relationship coach Aileen Santos says you should maintain eye contact and turn your body toward her when she’s speaking. So, throw all the torpe moves and tito pickup lines out the window and talk about something else other than the weather.
“Always offer to buy her a drink,” said Cruz. A little liquid encouragement always loosens the lips and eases the first-date jitters. But don’t get her too drunk, either. Remember: She always has to be clearheaded above all else. #Consentiscool
FROM PG TO R-13
Step up your landi game by being more touchy feely. Cruz recommends you feed her some of your dessert and lightly touch her arms and hands when you two are deep in conversation. When you’re ready to leave, place your hand on her hip when you’re walking to the car. But before you proceed, make sure she’s comfortable with whatever you are doing to her.
KISS, KISS BANG, BANG
Once you've charmed her with your funny quips and you can safely say that she's brought her guard down, try to give her a kiss that deserves Hollywood recognition. Dan Bacon, a sex and relationship expert and founder of the dating help site themodernman.com, says that women won't sleep with a man whom they haven't kissed yet, so up your chances by planting one on her, stat. Increase your chemistry by synchronizing your movements with hers. Santos says modern women are more open to the idea of physical intimacy with a stranger compared to the shy Maria Clara’s of yesteryears.
SHE COMES FIRST
Since you're a gentleman, ask her what she wants. Cruz encourages you to find her sweet spot—it can be on the base of her neck, the small of her back—and smother her with kisses. Stroke her body in places you think she will appreciate. And for the love of God, find her clit and treat it gently.
In this fast-paced world of modern dating, sealing the deal on the first try isn’t out of the question —as long as you know which buttons to push and which ones to undo