Mothers in combat boots
Iused to reference my own motherhood travails in navigating the corporate terrain, so to me mothers who were corporate mavericks were super moms. This was before I was fully immersed in the even more challenging realities of women in active military service who also tended to their families and raised their children.
Having been more involved in the military service for a few years now as a reservist officer and engaged in many military activities and operations, except actual combat, I have personally seen and heard the amazing stories of mothers in the military.
The stories of these women who, at some point in their military lives, decided to build a family despite knowing the expectations from the profession of arms, have been heartbreaking, to say the least. Some need to leave their children for long periods of time due to their deployment assignments. These women in uniform miss special milestones in the lives of their children or are not around for those moments when the kids would just need their mother’s tight embrace after a tiring day at school, or want a kiss on a bruise after falling from a bike or playing with classmates.
Most mothers are blessed to be around for their children, especially when it matters, but such is not so for our mothers in uniform. They are able to cope, however, with a lot of valuable help from family, friends, and support groups who ensure that their physical absence still can still be stories of victorious and rewarding parenthood.
Some of the most accomplished Filipina military mothers shared their stories of love and triumph over the challenges of motherhood. In turn, I wish to honor them by sharing their stories with you.
Many more military women like them face these agonizing experi
ences as parents and often feel the pangs of guilt over being “absentee” parents. But they are empowered by the thought that these sacrifices are in honor of a sworn duty to serve the nation and the Filipino people. So, when you are spending time with your children, think of these women sometimes and the kids they often have to leave behind so we may live in a society kept peaceful and safe from domestic and foreign aggressors.
Running in heels is hard enough, but in combat boots it’s harder, at least to me who have spent half of my life in the former and now, in my current incarnation, in the latter, traipsing around in military fatigues. I am honored to have met so many women I proudly call my sisters-in-arms.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers and those who act as a mother to someone!
The author, Lieutenant Colonel Jannette C. Arceo, is an Army Reserve officer serving as the first female commander of the 403rd Ready Reserve KAAGAPAY Battalion of Laguna. She is the mother of Ramon, Romano, and Rafa Arceo.
No language can express the power and beauty and heroism of a mother’s love. —Edwin Chapin