PIA WURTZBACH On Falling In Love & Doing It Right
Coming off a challenging year, Pia Wurtzbach sets off to discover bliss
A Queen without a King is still a Queen.
And before Pia Wurtzbach controversially won Miss Universe, the crown was all she had in her head.
“The focus was the crown, 100%,” she says.
Love was the farthest thing from her mind.
In fact, winning the crown meant her entire happiness. I asked her to recall the top five moments she felt the happiest in her life and of course, winning Miss Universe was one of them. After all, it’s a joy only very few and select women will ever experience.
And in true beauty pageant fashion, the other four, she laid out in random order.
“Okay, in no particular order. I don’t want people to think na ‘Oh, that was happier than this moment,’ so of course, winning Miss Universe was one of them. I worked so hard and so long to get that,” Pia explains.
“I have a lot of really happy moments, siyempre kasama na yung Miss Universe, but I think one really happy, grateful moment of mine was when my mom allowed me to live in the Philippines alone, noong mag-cu-culinary pa lang ako.”
“I was only 19 or 18. Nasa airport na kami at may ticket ako pabalik ng UK, sasama ako sa kanila, nandiyan yung mga bagahe ko. Dramatic talaga! Sa airport dun ko sinabi sa mama ko na ‘Ma, parang hindi ako sasama. I have unfinished business here, I feel it. Stay muna ako, meron akong mga gustong gawin.’ Tapos, pinayagan niya ako,” Pia remembers.
“It came to me as a surprise that she trusted me and allowed me stay to pursue the things that I wanted to do. Tapos maliit lang yung budget ko noon pero pinayagan niya ako so I was like ‘Wow! I’m really thankful for that na hindi ako nahirapang magpaalam sa kanya.’”
And of course, we all know now what Pia had to do—join the Binibining Pilipinas pageant thrice to finally snatch that elusive crown. Winning the Binibining Pilipinas Universe title made her happy but not happier than being able to change a long-standing, traditional Binibining Pilipinas pageant practice with her persistence. Pia was the first Queen to wear an evening gown designed by a Filipino to the international pageant, effectively setting a precedent for all the Queens and designers that followed. That was one of her happiest moments.
“I associate it to freedom—one moment that comes to mind, for some reason, is Madam Stella (Marquez-Araneta) trusted me when she allowed me to wear a Filipino gown at Miss Universe. Sa akin, it’s up there because I remember that day I was in tears crying and just begging for her to allow me, to trust me, and we knew, at that time, that it was years and years of only wearing a Colombian designer. Matagal ko siyang niligawan, matagal talaga pero pumayag siya. Tumawag siya sakin one night sinabi niya, ‘sige payag ako.’ That was a big relief for me and also, I was very grateful that she trusted me with that. And that she trusted, not only me, but a Filipino designer to make us win,” Pia narrates.
And win she did in her now iconic blue gown recreated and interpreted many times over as Halloween costumes and even displayed in exhibits. Her happiness about that moment is, indeed, valid and valuable.
“One more is the very first time, and I don’t think nakwento ko ‘to sa iba pero, the very first time that I got an endorsement deal,” Pia remembers.
“It matters to me because I’ve been to so many auditions in my teenage life and I was always rejected. I never land commercials that I want. Nagiging ‘extra’ lang ako. Extra ako sa commercial ni Anne Curtis dati. Extra as in nasa background lang ako palagi, tapos yung paa ko lang yung makikita mo, ganung klase. Hindi ako nakukuha.”
“When I won Miss Universe, hindi ko naman inisip na, ‘Eto na magkakaroon na ako ng mga commercial,’ hindi mo naman i-aim yung Miss Universe with commercials at the back of your mind. Parang naging bonus na lang ‘yun. Hindi ko naman inexpect na may mga lalapit na mga brands. Basta sa akin, manalo lang siyempre. Yun yung focus
ko, manalo lang. So when the first one came, they called me for a meeting, first week ko pa lang, tapos sinabi nila sa akin na ‘Well, we have your first brand endorsement.’ Tapos sabi ko, ‘Talaga?’ And I just remember na naiyak ako. I told them ‘I wasn’t expecting this but you don’t know how this will change my life and how this will help me help my family, like you guys have no idea where I came from and how broke I was,’” Pia explains.
“I never thought that I would be in a commercial, that I would have this talent fee. Yung tulong agad yung naisip ko, na matutulungan ko na yung kapatid ko, matutulungan ko na yung mama ko. Hindi na kami mag-aalala, alam mo yung parang sobrang grateful ko so I think that was one big happy moment for me,” she adds.
And with four of the five happiest moments in her life related to achievement, one and only one had to be related to love—and that is feeling the love of her boyfriend, Beautiful Destinations founder, Jeremy Jauncy. It was about time Pia really fell in love.
“Hindi love at first sight, noong nakita ko si Jeremy,
‘Mahal na kita!’ Hindi naman ganun ‘yun. Parang syempre diba, you get to know the person and after a while of seeing each other, I remember going to bed one night,
tapos na-catch ko yung sariil ko na nakangiti ako habang nakapikit. Alam mo yung parang nakahiga na akong ganun pero nakangiti parin ako tapos sabi ko ‘Oh my god, anong nangyayari sa akin?!’ Parang first time kong ma-feel na talagang gustong-gusto ako.”
“First time ko ma-feel na parang, wow, ang sarap nung feeling na gusto ka niya. Well, hindi ko naman sinasabi na hindi ko na-feel sa iba yun pero iba kasi ‘to. Alam mo yung parang hindi lang kilig eh, parang secured ka tapos hindi ka nag-aalala na baka may iba pa syang niliigawan parang ang ganda ko. Ganun yung feeling.”
Pia tells me that having that feeling made her feel even more beautiful than when she won Miss Universe.
“Basta na-catch ko yung sarli ko na, and siguro ang tagal na bago ko na-feel yun or hindi ko pa sya na-fe-feel on that level pero naka-catch ko yung sarili ko na nakangiti ako, na matutulog ka na nga lang, nakangiti ka pa. Sabi ko ‘Wow ang sarap naman ng feeling na ‘to! So ayun,’” Pia gushes.
Pia remembers the exact spot at Covent Garden in London where she met Jeremy for the first time. She says he was very friendly and respectful, that they talked for a bit, discovered they had much in common and most importantly, that there was already a connection.
A Queen always knows a King when she sees one.
But Pia admits that before winning Miss Universe, a partner was only secondary to the crown.
“Before Miss Universe, the crown was my goal. Even though I would go on date once in a while, hindi ko nagiging goal na magiging boyfriend ganun. Kasi kung papipiliin ako, crown talaga. Ganun ako ka-obssessed sa pageants noon.”
And for a Queen like Pia, not just any King will do. He needs to be secure enough in himself to be with a woman like her, allow her to shine and not dim her light just so she doesn’t cast a shadow over him.
“I think coming from a broken family, it made me into this like, hopeless romantic where I felt like sana ‘pag turn ko na, hindi kami maghiwalay or sana I find the right one and sana walang mang yaring hindi maganda, ganoon. Sana, sana… ” I get it right
“Bago ako maging Miss U, I was very submissive like, sa boyfriend ah.
As a girlfriend, I was very quiet, like I didn’t really say much. Hindi ako lumalaban ganyan, sumusunod lang ako. And then, it became like a switch after, parang I felt so confident and then I started speaking my mind. I started being more of an ‘alpha’ talaga. But with Jeremy now, I found the balance. When as before I was too subservient or too submissive, then I became too strong, now, I just found the right balance in the middle.”
Finding the balance is really how Pia is able to make her relationship with Jeremy work and thrive even in long-distance.
Pia relishes moments when she and Jeremy would go on romantic trips together and finally getting this relationship right.
Remembering her childhood, Pia tells me what she wanted in terms of love when she was just a young girl.
“As a kid, you have this kind of idea that family should be together. Parents should be loving towards each other and sana hindi sila maghiwalay pero unfortunately that didn’t happen to me. But what it did though is that it made me hopeful that sana I find that, you know, the loving family life.” She recalls the night when her parents separated. She was only 9 years old. “I was very close to my dad. He gave me this blue boom box for my birthday and he borrowed it from me the last night that he was at home. Sabi niya in German, marunong pa akong mag-German noon, sabi niya ‘Hiramin ko ‘to pero balik ko sayo,’ sabi niya tapos pumayag naman ako and then I never saw him again so that was kind of our parting. It’s sad no?”
That moment in Pia’s young life made her dream that when she grew up, things would be different for her. That Daddy’s little Princess would grow up to be a Queen with a King who is worthy of her, and who would never leave her.
“I think coming from a broken family, it made me into this like, hopeless romantic where I felt like sana ‘pag turn ko na, hindi kami maghiwalay or sana
I find the right one and sana walang mangyaring hindi maganda, ganoon. Sana sana… I get it right.”
And get it right, she did. With Jeremy, Pia knows she has a man secure enough in himself to let her truly be herself.
But she didn’t know it from the start, saying it took a while of talking before he asked her on a date.
“Sa Shoreditch House. On my last night in London, we went out for dinner, tapos doon na talaga kami nakapag ‘get-to-know’ na magusap ganyan. Health conscious siya. Ako naman, foodie. So talagang andami kong in-order. Andami kong kinain,” Pia remembers just being herself.
After that first date, Pia wasn’t sure Jeremy was interested in her because there was no kiss goodnight, just a very neutral pat on the back which later on would be a private joke to the couple.
“Actually joke namin sa isa’t isa yun. Ano lang, hug lang! Hindi man lang yung hug na HUG. Ano lang, yung parang very friendly hug. Pat in the back hug. Yeah exactly, ganun tapos alam mo yung parang pagbalik ko sa room ko sabi ko ‘Ang hirap nito ah,’ alam mo yun? Tapos sabi ko after months na, kami na parang recently lang nga yata sabi ko sa kanya ‘Remember the time that after our first date in London, you gave me the friend zone hug.’ Sabi ko ‘Why did you do that? I want to confront you right now.’ Tapos sabi niya ‘I was trying to be respectful.’ Ganyan. Wala, biru-biruan lang namin yun.”
Pia and Jeremy’s first kiss would come later on and many, many miles in the making. The couple have been talking for months while they were physically apart when they agreed to meet in Hong Kong.
“Nasa New York siya nung time na yun, tapos na-ospital siya. Hindi niya sinabi sa akin. Nagkaroon siya ng sugat na na-infect, tapos sobrang nainfect, tapos na-ospital siya. Pero the day na nadischarge, yung day na nadischarge siya, sumakay na siya ng eroplano papuntang Hong Kong.
“Galing ako sa Thailand tapos ang usapan namin magkita tayo sa Hong Kong. ‘Yun ang usapan namin na bago ako uuwi ng Manila. I had a few days off from work so magkita tayo sa Hong Kong. So he didn’t tell me na muntik na siyang magcancel ng trip dahil na-ospital siya. He still flew.
Tapos nakita ko nung una na meron siyang parang bandage, tapos sabi ko bakit hindi mo sinabi sa akin, ganyan ganyan. And then, ang mga date kasi namin ano, really a lot of walking in the park, a lot of puro lakad. Hindi kami nag-si-sit down tapos usap. Lagi kaming walking while talking. Laging ganun. So, we did that for like a few days na nag-uusap lang kami at
“I know what people see online and on the internet are all literally beautiful destinations and like all these places but really our best moments are when we’re just with each other. ..it doesn’t matter to us where we are, as long as we have each other”
naglalakad pero hindi pa kami nag-ki-kiss. Until finally one night, he did. And then ayun na! Okay na!”
But it was in New York and months later on New Year’s Eve when Jeremy officially asked Pia to be his girlfriend.
“It was on New Year’s Eve ng December 31 kasi we already planned to spend New Year’s together so we spent Christmas separately, I mean with our respective families and then New Year’s, we said that we are going to travel together, tapos at that point, wala pang ‘I love you’ or anything so I guess noong day nag-ask siya, same day siya nag-I love you, same day siya nag-ask.
First date in London, first kiss in Hong Kong and first “I love you” in New York. From the moment she said “yes,” Pia knew that it was going to be an international love affair that would require much effort and commitment, of traveling back and forth to see each other, which they both were prepared to do. In fact, before the global lockdown hit because of COVID-19, Pia and Jeremy were so used to having to do LDR (Long Distance Relationship). And after 5 months of not seeing each other, as soon as it was safe to fly, Pia finally flew to be with her boyfriend, Jeremy.
“Nailang ako promise. Nailang ako kasi siyempre five months tapos it (the lockdown) happened very early on in our relationship pa so hindi parang bumalik sa dati na bagong bago ganun. Sa airport kami nagkita and then kinakabahan pa ako mag-travel ‘nun kasi siyempre mag-isa lang ako lumipad tapos todo mask pa, nakakaka panibago pa ng feeling. Hindi mo alam kung pwede na ba mag-travel? Safe ba ‘to? Alam mo yun? Nag-wo-worry ka about many things. And then nung pagdating ko dun, sakto kasi nag-land yung plane niya at plane ko, sa airport kami nagkita,” Pia narrates.
And since then, for Pia and Jeremy, it has been airports and beautiful destinations as the continue to try to nourish their love in a world still embattled with sickness. They are also just two people who do what they have to do to be with each other safely, lovingly.
“I always tell Jeremy how lucky we are really, like how blessed we are to be able to be with each other, to be healthy.
Hindi kami nagka-COVID. Those simple things he and I, we talk about it a lot like parang, ‘You know babe, just the fact that we have each other and we’re okay and safe. We are very grateful for that,’” Pia proclaims.
And for a Queen to feel safe in an unsafe world, it only means she has truly, finally found the King that is right for her. And he is not just the King of Beautiful Destinations, he is also now, the King of the most beautiful Queen in the universe.
“Basta magkasama lang kami, masaya na and I know what people see online and on the internet are all literally beautiful destinations and like all these places but really our best moments are when we’re just with each other and that could be in a park, that could be stuck in airport like waiting for five hours or more, it doesn’t matter to us where we are, as long as we have each other. Wow!”
“Jeremy is the one.”