Crabs Pa More!

“For al­ways, there will be greater and lesser per­sons than your­self”. And I can con­clude that each one of us was weighed but found want­ing (tin­im­bang ngu­nit ku­lang).

Palawan Daily News - - Opinion -

Tin­im­bang Ka Ngu­nit Ku­lang is a clas­sic Fil­ipino film di­rected by Lino Brocka and it re­flects dif­fer­ent as­pects and is­sues of Philip­pine so­ci­ety-from abor­tion, mar­riage, gen­der stereo­typ­ing and crab men­tal­ity. On the other hand, good traits such be­ing re­li­gious and hos­pitable is ev­i­dent in the film.It shows plenty of han­daan to ac­com­mo­date the vis­it­ing crowds in a wake and show­cased de­vout Catholics cel­e­brat­ing the Reyna Elena Fes­ti­val. This is not a movie re­view. I just love the movie ti­tle. And I’m us­ing it as my ex­pres­sion.

What I love on this film is that our neg­a­tive val­ues is shown. Par­tic­u­larly the fact that we tend to prac­tice crab men­tal­ity- see­ing suc­ceed­ing in­di­vid­u­als fall. A lot of Filipinos just don’t like it when some­one has a bet­ter life- new house, new car and a good job. Ac­cord­ing to my per­sonal ob­ser­va­tions, there are well- ed­u­cated Filipinos who are into that and it seems that their good ed­u­ca­tion did not help them to get rid of that kind of at­ti­tude. What if you’re the crab? Then, there’s no point and sense of read­ing this. Kid­ding! Crab men­tal­ity is nor­mal and com­mon es­pe­cially in the cor­po­rate world. I’ve worked with dif­fer­ent kinds of peo­ple with dif­fer­ent be­hav­iors and per­son­al­i­ties. If you are do­ing good, of­ten times, they will drag you down. But I’m used to it. Work­ing with­out an an­tag­o­nist is bor­ing.

If you are the vic­tim, there are ways how to beat the crab men­tal­ity. In an or­ga­ni­za­tional set­ting, an­a­lyze the be­hav­ior of the peo­ple. Read their per­son­al­i­ties and try to un­der­stand why they be­have like that at work. Know what mo­ti­vates them, what makes them happy and most im­por­tantly, what pushes their but­tons.If you al­ready un­der­stand them, you will be able to act or make de­ci­sions ac­cord­ingly and you will also learn how to han­dle them. You will also iden­tify the peo­ple who will help you and who will drag you down More­over, if you en­counter peo­ple with full of neg­a­tiv­ity, don’t bother talk­ing and mak­ing friends with them. They will just drag you down too.

Yes, there are con­flicts. Do not ig­nore the con­flicts. As a Po­lit­i­cal Sci­en­tist, I’ve learned that there are no per­ma­nent friends and en­e­mies in pol­i­tics. And if you don’t play with pol­i­tics, pol­i­tics will hit you hard. In a Cor­po­rate arena, al­ways choose your bat­tles. Choos­ing your bat­tle means de­cid­ing when to fight or who to fight. Never fight with peo­ple who are not worth your time.If you do, you will lose. That’s re­al­ity! But the most im­por­tant thing is, you do your best at work. If you do your best, they will be threat­ened and the ten­dency is they will drag you down.

When I was younger, I am ag­gres­sive, com­pet­i­tive and with semi-crab men­tal­ity be­cause I am self­ish with my own ideas. These are hu­man im­per­fec­tions. But I know, be­ing one will not help me to im­prove my­self to be­come a bet­ter per­son. Rather than fo­cus­ing on this neg­a­tive trait, I tried to be­come bet­ter each day by avoid­ing all the un­ac­cept­able acts and be­hav­iors. Since then, I am al­ways guided with the teach­ings of Desider­ata which says “For al­ways, there will be greater and lesser per­sons than your­self”. And I can con­clude that each one of us was weighed but found want­ing (tin­im­bang ngu­nit ku­lang).

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