T HERE are three se­crets of suc­cess­ful peo­ple in life:

Sun Star Bacolod - - ‘yuhom! - BY NIRMLA MOTOOMULL

Se­cret 1. Know how to say “Sorry.” We com­mit mis­takes be­cause we are hu­man. Own up and sin­cerely say “Sorry.” You hurt your feel­ings or some­one’s feel­ings, I’m sorry. You broke a prom­ise. I’m sorry. You were rude to some­one, I’m sorry. You did some­thing wrong, I’m sorry. Not many know how to apol­o­gize. They must have for­got­ten that a sin­cere sorry heals the wound and gives an­other op­por­tu­nity for re­la­tion­ship to flour­ish anew. How do you say a sin­cere “Sorry?” Just say it. No ex­pla­na­tion. Just “Sorry.” But a per­son who re­peat­edly says “Sorry” for the same mis­take is not re­ally sorry. This is al­ready a bad habit to break. This be­comes dan­ger­ous. You lose face. Even­tu­ally, you will lose the trust of other peo­ple. A sin­cere apol­ogy does not cor­rect a mis­take. But it bridges the gap be­tween the of­fender and the of­fended. It gives birth to new be­gin­nings.

Se­cret 2. Know how to say “Please help me.” We have for­got­ten that to be able to make it some­where, we need well-mean­ing peo­ple to help us. But there are times, ask­ing for help be­comes com­pli­cated. For ex­am­ple, when you ask for fi­nan­cial help, say a loan, you have to re­mem­ber that it comes with a re­spon­si­bil­ity of re­turn­ing the money. You risk your rep­u­ta­tion when you fail to pay your debt. Re­mem­ber, to be trusted is to be loved. If you al­ways ask for help with­out help­ing your­self and you be­come de­pen­dent on peo­ple’s gen­eros­ity, your “Please help me” be­comes mean­ing­less.

At worst, your de­pen­dence will par­a­lyze your cre­ativ­ity to be­come your real per­son. In the end, you lose. Just don’t overuse it.

Se­cret 3. Know how to say “Thank you.” Those who are grate­ful are one step ahead to achiev­ing their dreams. “Thank you” is a sim­ple way to demon­strate that the heart knows grat­i­tude. Some­times, it is not enough that we are kind or we smile to the per­son whom we are grate­ful. It is also mu­sic to her/his ears to hear “Thank you.” It’s im­por­tant to have true friends be­cause a per­son can­not go on alone all the time. It is also im­por­tant that we ap­pre­ci­ate the hard work of our par­ents by not tak­ing them for granted. When was the last time you said “Thank you” to them? An­other im­por­tant thing, how do we be­come good cit­i­zens of our com­mu­nity? If you do good in life with­out step­ping on an­other toes, that is a good sign of grat­i­tude to your com­mu­nity. You don’t have to be a hero to be good. Just be good. That is al­ready a big com­mit­ment to your com­mu­nity. That way, you be­come a hero.

In all times and in all things, if pos­si­ble, we prac­tice the qual­ity of be­ing rea­son­able and not be­ing ex­treme or in short, mod­er­a­tion. Above all, ev­ery night, we re­mem­ber to thank God for giv­ing us an­other op­por­tu­nity to wake up to an­other beau­ti­ful day.*




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