Parental guid­ance

It’s sports. Let the kids play. Let them have fun. Let them en­joy. The refs will make a mis­take or two. The other team will make a foul or two or more. Don’t go bal­lis­tic.

Sun.Star Cebu - - PRIME SPORTS - MIKE T. LIM­PAG mike­[email protected] ED­I­TOR: MIKE T. LIM­PAG / [email protected]

My pre­vi­ous col­umn re­gard­ing mis­be­hav­ing par­ents in the field got a re­ac­tion from an­other par­ent who en­coun­tered sim­i­lar be­hav­ior while fol­low­ing his son’s games.

He was happy that I raised the topic since he’s been look­ing for some­one to share his story with. At one point, he wanted to call the head of the school to in­form them about the be­hav­ior of their par­ents in their games.

“It is okay to cheer dur­ing games but not to the ex­tent of call­ing the names of the op­pos­ing teams/play­ers in a wrong way,” he wrote.

This has been the no. 1 com­plaint that I’ve heard in the side­lines over the years and I have to say, there are a lot of guilty teams. When emo­tions run high, the emo­tions of the par­ents in the back­ground run higher.

I re­mem­ber one group of par­ents lam­bast­ing an­other group for call­ing their sons names but then a week later, they them­selves were guilty of do­ing it. How does one con­trol this? I re­ally don’t know but I do know that there are ef­forts to ed­u­cate the par­ents. Coaches or fel­low par­ents who are fa­mil­iar with the game ed­u­cate those who do not know on the proper con­duct.

But sadly it’s the bad ap­ples that get no­ticed and de­stroy the rep­u­ta­tion of a school.

The e-mail sender asked if there is some­thing the lo­cal as­so­ci­a­tion can do about this but save for re­quir­ing every new foot­ball par­ent to at­tend a sem­i­nar, the lo­cal FA is pow­er­less over this.

It can only act if there is a com­plaint and sadly, there’s only go­ing to be a com­plaint if there is al­ready an in­ci­dent.

But still, over the years, I’ve heard of cases where it’s the chil­dren them­selves who pun­ish their over­bear­ing par­ents.

I’ve heard that the son of the guy who punched a ref­eree af­ter a game be­cause he was dis­grun­tled with the call stopped play­ing al­to­gether, a slap on the over­bear­ing dad. An­other player, whose par­ent went to the ex­tent of go­ing to the tax au­thor­i­ties in an ef­fort to get back at a coach who didn’t pick her son, also stopped play­ing.

Why? It’s sim­ple. The coaches who re­layed those info said they were em­bar­rassed by their par­ents’ ac­tions and foot­ball, for them, was no longer fun.

Fun. That should be the no. 1 thing on the mind of the par­ents of the kids watch­ing in the stands.

It’s sports. Let the kids play. Let them have fun. Let them en­joy. The refs will make a mis­take or two. The other team will make a foul or two or more. Don’t go bal­lis­tic.

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