The Truth

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M:I was once asked to “lay down our cards on the ta­ble.” I fig­ured it had noth­ing to do with gam­bling but about com­ing clean with what was re­ally go­ing on. Hon­esty is the best pol­icy. The truth hurts and truth­fully, some­times we can­not han­dle the truth. I learned some­thing after that card-lay­ing in­ci­dent. First: never ask a ques­tion that you’re not pre­pared to hear the an­swer to. And sec­ond: if you don’t like what you hear, don’t take it per­son­ally. DJ

Truth is not al­ways an easy pill to swal­low. That’s why some of us hide what we truly think or feel. A lot of the pain re­ally stems from the ego that de­sires to have only what it wants and how it wants it. M:

When peo­ple have “heart to heart” talks, these open the pos­si­bil­ity for many things to be re­vealed. These can also bring about clo­sure or the end of a re­la­tion­ship. There are said to be some things to con­sider be­fore a com­mit­ment talk. Tim­ing for one. Don’t have it dur­ing an ar­gu­ment or when you’re feel­ing hurt or an­gry about some­thing else. Hear­ing and ac­cept­ing the truth also de­pends on when and how you say it, and how the other per­ceives it.

DJ

After all that I have been through these past years, I’m learn­ing that love is in­deed more of a de­ci­sion and less of a feel­ing. Keep­ing a re­la­tion­ship whole re­quires more than just a con­cept of be­ing in a re­la­tion­ship. It’s an ev­ery­day de­ci­sion to see that a flawed per­son is ca­pa­ble of do­ing great things. The key is still dis­cern­ment. Be­cause we’ve been through a lot as adults, we fail to con­sider hon­esty and truth­ful­ness as im­por­tant parts of the equa­tion.

M:

Life is frag­ile. Let’s con­sider the thoughts that we think, the words that we speak, and the acts that we do. Some­one once said they had never heard any­one on his deathbed say that he wished he had made more money in his life­time or he wished he had made a cer­tain deal. Usu­ally it is some­thing like, “I wish I told my loved ones how much I ap­pre­ci­ate them” or “how I wish I took more risks.” If it takes lay­ing down the cards on the ta­ble to do that, then lay them on. Say it now or for­ever hold your peace.

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