Reasons for fighting

IHAVE to admit, the past week(s) have been quite unkind. There have been bad things happening during the tail end of last, last week which was okay at first, since I was thinking that things would change as the new week entered.

Big mistake.

I have come to realize once again, that there are times when things can really go from bad to worse. It is a sad fact but we all know that it is bound tyo happen at some point, and that it will. Hmp. And so, I had to grapple with one bad news to another. Being what I am, I always still try to find the good things in bad situations; but you know, there are times when “be happy” just doesn’t cut it.

Grrrr. That sinking feeling that you get when something totally unexpected happens seem to be a lot easier to take that events that you knew might happen but hoped would never reach fruition. You feel like you did all you could to prevent by praying and trying to bargain with the rest of universe to turn the circumstances in your favor but still, you are denied the happy news. Hahahaaay.

I am sitting writing this article with a five-day-old fruit pie bewitching me to eat it. Hmmm. “So what if it’s five days old? It was refrigerated and doesn’t appear to have any molds yet.” So I ate it. Paired with a hot mug of coffee. Don’t ask me why, but doing it felt like a triumph over adversity and all those other things that one cannot do, just because.

If you have ever been in a similar situation where you found yourself a slave to the not-so-good things that are happening around you, I am pretty sure you would understand how this “weird” act of mine can be empowering! (Small victories bring in packets of good vibes..I just hope I don’t get indigestion from this!)

The truth of the matter is, I am having a hard time trying to be positive. Of course, I will fight this negativity tooth and nail, until all my teeth fall out and all my nails die, but it really is a gruelling process of surviving an awful time. And it seems the bad waves keep rolling in, too! You start wondering about why these things are happening and what have you ever done that was so wrong to deserve it.

Why do good bad things happen to good people? Why not let it happen just to the bad ones? It is heartbreaking to see people you love and care about go through tough times that you have personally gone through. In a way, when you see them go through these difficulties, it feels like that all your painful experiences have resurrected and you are living that nightmare all over again. At one point, you start feeling all the hurt and heartache. It will feel like the your battle scars from that experience have suddenly become raw and aching.

I began to realize that there are experiences that we unknowingly sweep under the rug, but it never really goes away. We think that we have gotten over it and are free of it, until something happens and it re-emerges from its hiding places. Erf. Yes, it sucks but with it comes the discovery that you have learned a lot from surviving the ordeal! You know that you are actually better equipped to handle similar experiences because you have been there. Although the circumstances does tend to bring back an uncomfortable painfulness, you can see the bigger picture now, and perhaps are better able to plan your game plan for survival.

I have always felt it was responsibility to share painful experiences in the hope that others may find strength and hope in the fact that I have survived it, and continue to fight for the right to live my life to fullest while trying to be mindful of the other people who need to feel the same way about life as I do. We all have times when we feel like we have our backs to the wall and we are forced to dwell in the negativity of a bad experience. Yes, there are bad days but it is by no means a reason not to continue fighting for the good days that are ahead. Here are my reasons why:

1. You are not alone. Somewhere in the world, someone else is experiencing the same things that you are going through. It may seem like the whole world has decided to drop you off Nowhereland and gone on turning without you, but there are many “yous” feeling that exact same way about their lives. No one has a perfect life. We fall and rise, we make mistakes and correct them. That IS life. We just need to live it the best way we know how.

2. You have a purpose. All of us have a role to play in this world. Of course there are times that it seems that we have been given sh*tty roles, but well, if played correctly, we are bound to be stronger and more effective al life because of it. If we find ourselves faced with the same battles we’ve battled before, do not lose heart. It really does not mean that we have failed, it means there is more to learn to help you grow and become an even better person.

3. No one is always happy and cheerful. If someone ever claims that they are, they are lying! Life always has two sides, remember that. We win and we lose. The trick to surviving hard times is to learn accepting that at some point, we will find that balance between the two. In the mean time, the name of the game is to hang on for survival by learning to find the good things in the bad and to never lose sight of the better things that are coming in the future. We have to learn to let go of the things we cannot change and just work on trying to make the rough ride easier for as many people possible. In the end, you know that you have done all you could to find comfort and joy in adversity.

Tough times will always be part of our lives. There are times when it seems that we really do not have anything to smile about. There are moments when it seems we are engulfed purely by darkness. It does work to exist on auto-pilot during these times btu at some point, we all know that we will start feeling the glum emotions again. We need to find a reason to keep hoping because these dark times cannot be yanked out of our lives the way we can rip bad chapters from a good book. We have to learn to LIVE THROUGH IT! So be strong, find your balance, hope and pray for strength and guidance. Soon you will find the fortitude to keep going until you see the sun shining brightly again.

Have a better week everyone!