Trading places
IGUESS there are moments when we wish that we had someone else’s life instead of ours. Whether we do so in jest or with much consternation, it expresses the fact that we do perceive that other people have better lives than we do. There are lifestyles that we wish were ours so that we do not have to “stress’ too much about things.
Life can be difficult. It can be unfair. And yes, we do suffer from the consequences that we make AND the cards that life deals us. All of us go through it. None of us will ever escape it. You can say that it is part of our lives and it is up to us to learn how to interpret and accept it.
The past week was a busy week for me. Due to a 10-day absence from my usual work load, my schedule was a bit too crazy for comfort. Getting things done was no easy feat but I tried to do the best that I could. Still, the week did not pass without a hitch, some mistakes out of my control, the others, well, I had only myself to blame. Instead of being disappointed and stressed about the whole situation, I chose to keep my calm and see things in a positive light. I really make it an effort not to get anxious about things because it dampens the spirit and clouds better judgment. Rather than then letting setbacks (some people refer to it as failure) get you down, choose to learn from it. When it is something that happens beyond your control, accept it. Do not give yourself any reason to blame yourself or anybody else around you because it is done. Instead, study it and try to figure out ways to get around similar situations in the future.
When you are clearly at fault, then, you know what you need to do. No, you do not blame other people for it! It may seem like that you have let yourself off the hook by finding a fall guy (or girl) but does it really undo the things that you have done? Pointing fingers at other people may relieve you of that guilt but does it really? In the end, you do know deep inside that you only have yourself to blame so just be brave to accept it! It may hurt your ego but the sooner you get over yourself, the faster you can move on to becoming a better person! Learn from each challenge. Think of it as opportunities to improve the present version of yourself. It may be learning how to deal with life the hard way, but sometimes, it is the only way for us to remember what we need to remember to survive in life. Just be brave enough to embrace your imperfections and the harshness that life throws at us. We all go through it Even diamonds need serious polishing to sparkle. Let us see these challenges as chances for us to shine!
We often compare ourselves to others. I am guilty of this. Sometimes, I look at all my friends and feel a bit inferior. Sometimes I blame my circumstances and sometimes I blame the Universe for “favoritism” and unfair treatment! Hahaha. During these moments, I would feel bad about how my life plans are not happening as planned. I feel sad and disappointed in myself. There are days too, when I beat myself up for trying to live up to other people’s standards, most especially when I try to adapt to what is popular just because a lot of people are doing it. Sure, sometimes it works but most of the time, in my case, they don’t. And I regret falling into that trap for a very long time! We need to have better faith in ourselves and our capabilities. We need to choose to go out on a limb for our own good and not for other people’s approval.
A few days ago, I came across a table for Body Mass Index in one of the clinics that I work in. It brought to mind memories of the time I just had my bariatric surgery. I had already lost a lot of weight but I knew a lot of people were expecting me to lose a whole lot more. I did not want to plunge into that because I knew I would eventually get bored losing weight and start eating so much again. I decided to concentrate more in adapting to my new diet and lifestyle rather than running after the pounds. It worked! Three years after my surgery, I am still losing weight. I used to be a size 30, now I tether happily between a Size 16 and Size 18. What used to be 356 pounds is now down to 204. I used to be Morbidly Obese with a BMI of more than 50% but now I am a slimmer member of Obese Class 1 with a BMI of 34% and very proud to be so! Some of my co-bariatric patients are already Size 10s and 12s but I am okay with that. I am happy for them! I am happier to say that I am just as satisfied with where I am now but I have no intention of stopping to become even better. Hence, I told myself that my goal for the remainder of the year until 2017 is to become OVERWEIGHT! Yess!! I will be sexier with a BMI of less than 30 percent!!
So you see, it is really just a matter of perspective! You do not always have to feel sad and disillusioned about things that are not so good in your life. There are better ways of facing what life’s tests! How you choose to see life is entirely up to you. If you make the effort to see things in a more positive light, you perceive challenges with a better outlook and more hope that things will be better in the future!! Happy Sunday Everyone! :)
Life can be difficult. It can be unfair. And yes, we do suffer from the consequences that we make AND the cards that life deals us. All of us go through it. None of us will ever escape it. You can say that it is part of our lives and it is up to us to learn how to interpret and accept it.