Can mis­takes be avoided?

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A PROPER view of mis­take (an ac­tion or an opin­ion that is not cor­rect which pro­duces a re­sult a per­son did not want) will help us an­swer these fol­low­ing ques­tions: Why do mis­takes hap­pen? How can we deal with them? Can they be avoided?

Of­ten, when mis­takes are made, a per­son spends much time and emo­tional en­ergy ap­por­tion­ing blame or jus­ti­fy­ing what was said or done. Why not sim­ply apol­o­gize when your words of­fend some­one, put things right and keep your friend­ship in­tact. Have you done some­thing wrong or cause in­con­ve­nience to your­self or some­body else? Rather than crit­i­cize your­self or ac­cuse oth­ers, why not sim­ply do your best to cor­rect matters? To in­sist that the fault lies else­where will al­most cer­tainly pro­long un­nec­es­sary ten­sion and al­low the prob­lem to in­ten­sify. In­stead, learn, cor­rect and move on.

No doubt when you make a mis­take, you want oth­ers to treat you with com­pas­sion or even to over­look your mis­takes com­pletely. So why not strive to show the same kind­ness to­ward oth­ers? Mis­takes arise from faulty judg­ment, in­ad­e­quate knowl­edge or inat­ten­tion. It is fool­ish and hu­mil­i­at­ing when any­one replies to a matter be­fore she/ he hears the facts. Tak­ing a few ex­tra mo­ments to hear things out and con­sider re­sponse will surely help pre­vent from speak­ing rashly or re­act­ing im­pul­sively. The knowl­edge gained by pay­ing close at­ten­tion is in­valu­able in avert­ing faulty judg­ment and most of all, avoid­ing a mis­take.

We do our best to pro­mote peace and col­lab­o­ra­tion. When work­ing with oth­ers, be con­sid­er­ate and re­spect­ful then com­mend and en­cour­age each other when nec­es­sary. In such an at­mos­phere, thought­less words and ac­tions can eas­ily be for­given or over­looked. And more se­ri­ous of­fenses can be ami­ably re­solved or reme­died.

Learn to turn the mis­take into a positive ex­pe­ri­ence. Rather than look­ing for some ex­cuse for what you said or did, see this an op­por­tu­nity to de­velop positive qual­i­ties in your­self. Do you per­haps need to show more pa­tience, kind­ness or self-con­trol? What about mild­ness, peace and love? There­fore, we learn what not to do the next time. With­out be­ing ir­re­spon­si­ble, try not to take your­self too se­ri­ously. A sense of hu­mor can surely help to dif­fuse ten­sion.

We will be­come wiser and more lik­able when we learn from our mis­takes. We will avoid feel­ing down­hearted and badly of our­selves, too. Ap­pre­ci­at­ing that oth­ers are also deal­ing with their mis­takes will draw us closer to them. An­other im­por­tant thing, be will­ing to be cor­rected and ac­cept crit­i­cism from peo­ple who are hon­est with you and those who care enough to want you to suc­ceed.

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