AN END TO ENTITLEMENT
RONA LYN M. SANTOS
Steve Maraboli, a writer and behavioral scientist, once said: "Service and gratitude will fuel your relationship; entitlement and expectation will poison it". This quotation holds true in any type of relationship. Entitlement mentality, as defined in our lesson in Edukasyon sa Pagpapakatao 8, is a belief that whatever it is that we want for ourselves must be given out to us, often expecting it from our loved ones and even from people who do not owe anything to us. It is also the idea that we are always right, we must always be obeyed or the feeling that we are above anyone else. If we feel this way, then we have no time to love and appreciate the ones around us because all we do is expect or even demand from them. Entitlement is the highest degree of selfishness, and it destroys our relationships with other people. How can we curb it? What can we do to refrain from being entitled? I believe we should start by reflecting: am I feeling privileged? am I hurting my loved ones' feelings by neglecting them and thinking only about my needs and wants? Then maybe we can go on thinking less about ourselves and what we can get other people to do for us, and eventually start to give more of ourselves. We'll see that can reach out to other people, think of what we can do for them, going out of our way to help them. We cannot just say, "This is the way I am, deal with it." We must keep in mind that the world does not revolve around us, and that showing our love for the people we say we love entails sacrifices.
The author is Teacher I at Pampanga High School