On Minding One’s Business
Josephine S. Dela Cruz
“My life, my choices, my problems, my mistakes, my lessons, not your business. Mind your own problems before you talk about mine.” Possible? It’s a no, no! You see, wagging tongues are lurking in every nook and corner waiting to devour innocent preys, preoccupying themselves with the business of others, living in delusion that they are wise and unblemished while others around are not, trying to find flaw within others to make themselves better. But come to think of it. Who would not be tempted to stealthily sneak into a house whose doors and windows are so inviting? Who would not savor such delectable foods on the table that make one’s mouth water? Who would not be interested to pry into your secret world when you began throwing dirty linens in public and revealing your skeletons in the closet? You’re the real culprit here! If you’re careful enough not to post your inner sentiments on Facebook and not divulge your deepest secrets, this will not happen.
My high school teacher once told us, “A secret is no longer a secret if it known by two people”. Let us face it, other love sticking their noses in one’s affairs. It is their cup of tea! Commenting, expressing their views without batting an eyelash. At some points, minding one’s business can help one overcome his woes. That is if you have genuine intentions. Wanting to ease the pain one is going through, giving a shoulder to cry on when the going gets tough, helping someone overcome his perplexities, sharing a helping hand to those in dire need, making others happy during their difficult and trying moments, comforting someone who just lost a love one, showing love and compassion to those facing their unknown adversaries and dilemmas. Interfering with one’s privacy becomes complicated and unbearable when the person let your attitudes and opinions persuade him/her. Just like what happened to a well-known Korean singer/actress. She received and read many damaging comments on her Facebook. Those hurting words turned her life into an inferno! Devastated and forlorn, she took her own life! How sad, a precious life was wasted! Before giving views, try to put yourself on other’s shoes. THINK before you CLICK! (GMA infomercial). And if your sole purpose is to malign people, try looking at yourself in the mirror. Our stay in this universe is temporary, let’s leave a good mark! I came across these quotes; “If someone is happy and you simply don’t agree, do not effort your opinion if it wasn’t asked for. Successful people never worry about what others are doing!”. So TRUE.
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The author is Teacher I at San Vicente – San Francisco High School