Masturbating son

Doc Rica,

I caught my son masturbating and of course it was an awkward moment. Pero siyempre knowing my responsibilities, I know na kailangan ko syang kausapin about it pero hindi ko alam kung paano. Medyo late bloomer ako when it comes to my sexual experiences and karamihan ng naexperience ko ay with a partner na.

Firstly, siguro I need to know if there is anything I should worry about kasi malamang magtatanong ‘yun when I talk to him. Para din medyo may alam naman ako when we talk.

Thank you, Money Pit

Hello Money Pit!

Medyo awkward nga ang inyong encounter. You will be surprised din sa dami ng ganitong encounters with parents not knowing how to talk to their children. Kaya kailangan talaga ng comprehensive education not only for kids or teenagers but also for parents. Pero kailangan mo isipin na baka mas uncomfortable ang son mo with you finding out that he is masturbating.

It is best to assure him that it is okay and that he can talk to you about these kinds of things.

A lot of teeners discovering masturbation have the tendency na maging gigil. Puwedeng magkaroon ng redness or irritation dahil sa friction or the tightness of the grip. Sabihin mo chill lang siya at wag masyadong manggigil. It may help to loosen the grip a bit or kaya puwede din niya iexplore ang pag gamit ng lubricants. Use a mild soap when cleaning his penis too. Puwede din niyang gamitin ‘yung nondominant hand niya for variety.

I hope that the frequency is not a problem for you kasi medyo normal nga ‘yan for his age due to raging hormones.

Above all this, I think kailangan mo din ievaluate how you view masturbation in general. Ano ba ang mga factors na nagcontribute sa pananaw mo dito. Self-pleasure helps us discover our sexuality and makes us more comfortable with sex. It is good din that he can talk to you about this than learning things from sources we are unsure of. Good Luck!

With love and lust, Doc Rica